Struggling to enjoy time with my son when I feel so depressed and down - any tips for not putting too much pressure on myself?

[Hollywolly123]

Me and my baby's dad split up 2 months ago. Since then I've been on anti depressants and I've really struggled with my self worth. I feel like I put too much pressure on myself to enjoy the time I have with my son that when I'm not enjoying myself because I feel low I get angry with myself and it just repeats in a continuous cycle. I start to worry about him going with his dad and my mind spirals out of control that I feel like I can't just live in the moment and be happy. Please somebody tell me this won't last forever, I really feel like I'm letting my baby down

Hi Hollywolly123,

We're so sorry you're going through such a tough time.

We're sure some Mumsnetters will be along soon with some advice and support, but in the meantime we just wanted to add some links to organisations which might be able to give you some extra help.

Here's a link to Mind's webpage about Coping with the everyday challenges of parenting

And here's a link to an organisation called PANDAS Foundation that was set to help women who may be struggling with post natal depression. Their helpline is available from 11am to 10pm every day - 0808 1961 776 - and they can also put you in touch with local support groups.

Please also take a look at the information and support that's offered by a charity called Gingerbread. We know it's helped lots of Mumsnetters in the past.

Just take it one day (or one hour) at a time. You're absolutely not letting your baby down.

We're just giving this thread another bump in case anyone's around to give the OP a bit of support.

Hi OP. Try not to be so hard on yourself. I had terrible pnd during my second pregnancy and felt terrible about my DS who was 18mo at the time. We have a great relationship now. Which anti ds are you on? Have they not helped at all? Do you have a support network?

It's a difficult enough time adjusting to parenthood let alone dealing with a breakup as well. You're doing so well. Keep going, it'll be ok, this too shall pass.