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Picky eating - where to get help?

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TinyTeacher · 16/02/2022 18:33

My DD is 5 and is a long-term picky eater. She had extremely large tonsils as a toddler such that she couldn't swallow. They were removed when she was 2. We saw an NHS dietician as by this time she was severly underweight and we were introducing solids back into her diet. There was very little that she was prepared to eat, but we were advised just to always offer what we were eating ans never make a fuss.

3 years on.....

She's an incredibly pickyeater. She will eat very little fruit - dried mango, dates, banana. Nothing else. Vegetables she will eat parsnip or carrot but ONLY if it'sbeen roasted in honey until it's virtually toffee. She won't eat any "wet" food e.g. stew, and she won't eat meat except for perhaps one chicken nugget.

Today was a fairly typical day at home ashe ate:
One quarter of a piece of toast (not including the crust) with a bit of chocolate spread.
One small wholewheat biscuit
Half a cheese sandwich (not including crusts)
Another plain biscuit
One fish finger (not quite finished), a few pieces of gnocchi.

I tried to push the issue a bit this evening and insisted she try her vegetable (peas tonight). She agreed to eat 8 peas if I held the spoon and she could.sit on daddy's lap. She threw up.

She ammo never says more than this, and sometimes much less. She is no heavier than she was when she was 3.

What do you do with this kind of picky eating???? We have been doing the "not making a fuss, just make sure food is always available" route andI really don't feel its working. We all eat at the table for meals (sometimes not DH) and I make sure each meal has a little bit of something she'll definitely eat and at least 1 vegetable. The dietician we originally saw said as long as she isn't constipated (she isn't, because I insist she eats dried mango each day, the only thing she'll touch with a decent amount of fibre) and she has her vitamins then we just shouldn't worry. But SURELY there is a way to improve things???

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HulahoopsBBQbeef · 16/02/2022 18:35

No help sorry but I’m in a very similar situation and have been looking for private help to no avail. Watching this thread with fingers crossed for advice

Easterbunnyiswindowshopping · 16/02/2022 18:40

If she needs a spoon and df to hold her you need to step back imo.
Will she help make any foods?
Less options not more.
Imagine a picnic spread out. Would you know where to start?
Make mealtimes a non issue.
Invite her a friend over. Dc are known to eat better with peers /at school.

TinyTeacher · 16/02/2022 19:23

Me holding the spoon and sitting in DH lap is not what we normally do, I was just having a moment of desperation. Normally we don't make an issue at all, and I don't give lots of choice, just one protein, one carbohydrate and 2 veg e.g. tonight she had fish fingers, gnocchi and peas (i didn't do a 2nd veg, usually do but I was a bit tight on time).
Unfortunately she doesn't eat any better with friends or at school. They give her a cheese s andwhich at school as they know otherwise she won't make a fuss, but just sits and eats nothing and goes hungry.
She does help make foods, but still doesn't eat them. She enjoys baking but doesn't eat the results e.g. last weekend she had a fried over and they made some Rocky road, but DD didn't eat it. We grow veg soemtimes, she enjoys that but has no interest in eating what we have grown.

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Madmaxxy · 16/02/2022 20:53

Hi OP - no experience directly with picky eating but I'm weaning my baby and there is a Instagram/website called Solid Starts. It was started by a lady who's son is a very severe picky eater so although there is lots.of.focus.on weaning and preventing picky eating, she also talks a lot about reversing picky eating. Tonnes of free content on the website and Instagram stories, but they are also releasing a 'reversing picky eating' programme you can pay for (or may have released it already I'm not sure). Anyway, I really rate it for practical, sensible and science backed advice. Definitely worth a follow. Good luck

Pinkflipflop85 · 16/02/2022 20:59

DS is almost 8 and sound very similar.
We had the same issues when weaning (huge tonsils causing gagging and vomiting + reflux led to food aversion) and were under the neuro development team/paeds/dietician.

We just go with what he will eat. There is a short list of 'safe' foods and that is what he has. I think it must be miserable to constantly eat the same thing but I've had to learn to let it go.

Packed lunches are easy because they have to be identical every single day!

Finchgold · 16/02/2022 21:22

I think you are already doing all the right things and just need to accept it’s a long game. As long as your child is healthy the priority should be making eating enjoyable and lots of opportunities to discover food in different ways. For example, my son likes cheese sandwiches but it has to be grated cheese and bite size. I slowly built up to using sliced cheese and cutting them in to triangles instead of squares . Sounds ridiculous but any new thing is a huge success. It’s taken a year but I’ve finally got him drinking smoothies. I encourage a lick or even just touching teeth on new food with no pushing to eat it. Picnics, cafes, take aways, cooking, buffers, all food exposure is good.

Bootoagoose123 · 17/02/2022 20:07

@Madmaxxy

Hi OP - no experience directly with picky eating but I'm weaning my baby and there is a Instagram/website called Solid Starts. It was started by a lady who's son is a very severe picky eater so although there is lots.of.focus.on weaning and preventing picky eating, she also talks a lot about reversing picky eating. Tonnes of free content on the website and Instagram stories, but they are also releasing a 'reversing picky eating' programme you can pay for (or may have released it already I'm not sure). Anyway, I really rate it for practical, sensible and science backed advice. Definitely worth a follow. Good luck
I 100% second this. Definitely check out Solid Starts - sounds like a very similar experience to what the founder has gone through with her little boy and as PP has said, they have specific courses and advice for reversing picky eating. Even their free Instagram content is brilliant.
Bran21 · 17/02/2022 20:13

Maybe involve her in deciding on a recipe and help making it. My fussy eater app is really good. Theres lots of lovely recipes on there to have a look at.

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