...so we were told by some of the posters on this thread. We were also told that there was only one way of getting children dry at night and that it involved "training" them - a process that meant repeated bed-wetting and middle of the night changes over several days or even weeks in order to "teach" them. It was, as long as we put the effort in, simple.
We were also told that waiting - for a dry pull up or other signs - would not produce any results.
Buried in that thread I make the point that the above training approach was more "infantilising" than waiting until children are ready to take control for themselves. I also feel that there is something pretty unpleasant about placing expectations on a child when they are clearly not ready to fulfill them.
There are also, in that thread, plenty of experiences that showed, categorically, that those who tried to "tell" us all the above, in black and white terms, spouted claptrap.
Rarely have I been so annoyed and felt so patronised by an mn thread. Rarely have I been presented with an opportunity to come back feeling so utterly vindicated. Two weeks ago dd2 (5) - she who left without pull-ups would soak the bed without waking up - said "I don't want to wear pull-ups". So we took them off. We have not had one single "accident" since.
Unlike some of those on the original thread I am not so foolish or arrogant as to think that just because this worked for us and dd it is the way forward for everyone. To my mind, children are individuals, who rarely fit prescriptions. However I am delighted - both because we got to being dry at night with total ease and zero stress - and because I can say yah boo sucks to those on that thread who got my back up...