In-Laws keep kissing baby!!!

[Girlmum21]

Hi,

My baby is now 4 months and since born i had the no kissing rule in place. Multiple times i’ve caught my in laws kissing my baby and pulling away quickly when they know i’m coming. I’m fed up asking my partner to ask them to stop i just want to protect her she was 2 months early and i cant face her being ill again. Its got to the point i’ve stopped handing her to them (currently living with them until we move into our home) i just feel no one is respecting my wishes!!

Nothing wrong with them kissing her on the forehead....unless they have a beard of coldsores..fucks sake.

Ok, I missed the bit where you said you were living with them. Yes, you are being completely ridiculous.

@Mum2jenny

I’d ban them completely from even seeing your child, if they will not support your reasonable view.

😂😂😂😂

Totally ridiculous

Sorry, think your being ridiculous. If you didn't live with them I could understand a little however that's not the case here.

I’m sorry but you’re being over protective. They live with you. What are they going to give her! No kissing on lips and you’re fine.

I don't understand ur problem at all? Many people want to kiss the babies in their family. I think you are way over reacting. A no kissing rule is just weird, if people have a cold etc surely they will know not to hold or kiss the baby. Just because the baby was premature doesn't mean a kiss will harm them.

God you sound delightful. Poor grandparents. Unless there is an epic drip feed here about them having cold sores or terrible colds all the time or they are snogging the baby then you are being ridiculous.

I don’t think you’re being petty, your baby, your rules. Unfortunately they obviously feel entitled, perhaps cause you’re living ‘under their roof’.

I find the entitlement to kiss babies gross. I understand they’re cute and smell lovely, etc bit if the mother has a reasonable rule, after her baby was so poorly for her first 5 weeks. She’s only 2 months old now technically, as she came 2 months early.

@Helloninjas

God you sound delightful. Poor grandparents. Unless there is an epic drip feed here about them having cold sores or terrible colds all the time or they are snogging the baby then you are being ridiculous.

Wow, you sound even more delightful!

OP’s baby was 2 months early and spent over 1 month on ventilation, she’s not ‘ridiculous’ to be worried.

Your post is ridiculously unkind.

I think it’s extreme not to allow people living with your baby to kiss them. Assuming you follow this rule too?
I can understand not kissing a baby when unwell. Or around their mouth. But dropping a kiss on the top of the head for example? Way OTT.

I thought kisses and hugs were good for babies and children (and older humans!) Unless they are kissing her on the lips and they're sneezing with chapped lips or a cold sore YABU. When you hold a baby to whom you are close it just feels natural to give them a kiss. Perhaps you could make them scrub up like medical staff in an operating theatre and put a sterile field round your daughter if they want to touch her.

Are they ill? Do you not kiss your baby? I'm not really following what the exact problem is, sorry

I couldn't get heat up about that.

When dd2 was a newborn I took her to visit my mum in her care home all the residents got to hold and touch her(it wasn't the cleanest place)
I was always happy for strangers to touch both my dd's and family to kiss them.
Give it a couple of months and you'll be shocked what your dd puts in her mouth 😉😉

Have your doctors recommended this?

If not then you are being unreasonable.

My first born was premature. He spent two weeks in an incubator and I couldn’t hold him as I wasn’t well. I felt that he needed the cuddles and kisses and hugs to make up for being on his own in an incubator. He is now 19, and is a really lovely young man.