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courtrai · 13/02/2022 17:06

So I live with DP and my 2 DC from marriage to exHusband. We rent a lovely house which is quite expensive. DP pays lions share of outgoings which I would expect to be c. £2.5k per month. I in turn pay DP £1k towards this which is significantly portion of my salary (about 40%).

DD is 19 and on apprenticeship but shortly due to change employer. In new employment she will be earning c. £1,400 take home a month. She currently pays £100 monthly rent. Her father provides no maintenance to her (she wouldn't be legally entitled anyhow) now her younger brother (there is a claim with CMS but he doesn't pay).

What would you expect her to pay rent-wise? She argues that she is saving for uni post-apprenticeship but spends an awful lot on clothes etc. the reality is she has a bigger disposable income than me and I'm wondering if the rent payment needs to change to reflect this. She pays her own mobile phone and runs a car but all food, bills etc is covered by £100 rent

Just interested in what consensus is on this one

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Chely · 13/02/2022 17:39

I paid £200 board a month when I started working almost 20 years ago.

qualitygirl · 13/02/2022 17:43

I'm in the don't charge them camo. Essentially she is buying all her own food, travel and clothing etc so you are not paying for her anymore in the mat respect.

I personally would keep it at the 100 to cover electricity and whatnot.tell her she needs to save a portion of pay each month and help her make a plan/budget.

The fact that you have less spending money is not her problem (I'm saying that to be mean!) but I always say if I can give my dc a leg up then I will.

I'm ready to be flamed but that's how I see it!

qualitygirl · 13/02/2022 17:43

Camp not camo 🙈

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qualitygirl · 13/02/2022 17:44

Omg...I'm NOT saying that to be mean 🤣 my typos today are out of this world!!

misspercy · 13/02/2022 17:46

@courtrai

So I live with DP and my 2 DC from marriage to exHusband. We rent a lovely house which is quite expensive. DP pays lions share of outgoings which I would expect to be c. £2.5k per month. I in turn pay DP £1k towards this which is significantly portion of my salary (about 40%).

DD is 19 and on apprenticeship but shortly due to change employer. In new employment she will be earning c. £1,400 take home a month. She currently pays £100 monthly rent. Her father provides no maintenance to her (she wouldn't be legally entitled anyhow) now her younger brother (there is a claim with CMS but he doesn't pay).

What would you expect her to pay rent-wise? She argues that she is saving for uni post-apprenticeship but spends an awful lot on clothes etc. the reality is she has a bigger disposable income than me and I'm wondering if the rent payment needs to change to reflect this. She pays her own mobile phone and runs a car but all food, bills etc is covered by £100 rent

Just interested in what consensus is on this one

Can you give her the option of paying you more rent, or saving more herself?

Putting it those stark terms might persuade her to reconsider how she spends her disposable income.

caringcarer · 13/02/2022 18:00

I think £200 pcm is fair. That works out to slightly less than £50 pw.

Viviennemary · 13/02/2022 18:04

I think at least £250 a month if its to cover bills and food.

2gorgeousboys · 13/02/2022 18:06

I think I'd take additional rent from her but put it away for when she goes to uni rather than adding it to.the household income.

Totalwasteofpaper · 13/02/2022 18:11

all food, bills etc is covered by £100 rent

Increase to £100 pw and save the money ( all of it ideally but at least half of it to gift to her when she moves out).

She should easily he able to save from £1k pm

misspercy · 13/02/2022 18:15

@2gorgeousboys

I think I'd take additional rent from her but put it away for when she goes to uni rather than adding it to.the household income.
This is just infantilising her. She's 19. Get her to save it herself.
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courtrai · 13/02/2022 19:35

Thanks all; out of my real life friends I've got the eldest kids so appreciate the input of others as not sure what the done thing is. I'm not looking to 'punish' her for having a higher disposable income than me but if I'm underwriting her living expenses then my gut feeling is she should pay a fair contribution to expenditure

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Timeturnerplease · 14/02/2022 19:22

Personally I’d take around £300 pcm from her, put it in a savings account and give it back to her when she’s looking to buy a property. Don’t tell her you’re doing it though, and hopefully she’ll save herself too.

Ragwort · 14/02/2022 19:27

Yes, I think she should contribute more, my DS is on a similarly salary in his 'sandwich year' at Uni .. he has to pay £156 a week for a very small room & en suite in a shared house - bills included but he has to buy his own food etc of course. It's all part of learning to grow up.

MadMadMadamMim · 14/02/2022 19:37

I'd ask for £300 a month. That's 25% of her disposable income and a bargain by the sound of it in the area you live in.

If house rents are roughly £2.5k per month then she's onto a good deal, paying £300 all in. It still leaves her with £900 a month to fritter or save. Which is more than most of us have after paying mortgage/rent, bills and food.

If she objects then she can look to move out into a house share, presumably?

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