Is your 3.5 yr old dry at night?

[emmatmg]

Our ds2 has been dry during the day for ages so we thought we'd try to crack the night times too.

After a about 6 weeks its' turned into a disaster!

I'd say I have to wash his sheets at least 3 times a week becuase he wets the bed. We make him got to the toilet before bed, I put him on the toilet when I go to bed. The only time I can guarantee he won't do it is if I have to get up during the night I'll then put him on the toilet again. I'm certainly not going to set my alarm for 3:30 am to do a toilet trip though!

Do you think we should go back to nappies? He is mortified at the idea of wearing them again but the washing sheets is driving me doo-lally.

I doesn't wake up when he wee's either so when he gets up in the morning, after sleeping in wet PJ's and bed that then dries, he smells like he's been sleeping in a public loo. Not nice!

My son, 3 yr 4 months, decided a few days ago that nappies were for babies and didn't want one at night. He wet himself every single night but last night I persuaded him to wear a pull-up pants. That was wet too in the morning so I think he is definitely not ready yet - he has only been dry in the day for a few months though.

I would try him in pull-ups or pyjama pants if he is agreeable and then try without again in a few months. 3.5 is fairly young for a boy to be dry at night I would say. My daughter was dry in the day shortly after 2 but I didn't even attempt to train her at night until she was 3.5.

Nowhere near. I'm not in the least bit anxious about this, but asked the health visitor when they should be dry, just as a guideline. She said the clinc for problems at night starts at age 7.

My 4yo still has a wringing wet nappy every morning. Boys take their time being dry at night, and it's really not worth the trouble of trying to get him dry if he's physically not ready. Try changing his nappy brand, or going from tabbed nappies to pull-ups. Having special 'big-boy nightk-time only nappies' might molify him.

Can you persuade him to take a break from night training for a bit, with the promise of a treat if his nappy is dry in the morning? My ds1 has only recently become consistently dry and clean during the day - I was getting seriously fed up of three and four accidents every day, often moments after he'd sat on the potty and not produced. Now, he is suddenly dry at night too - after week or so of dry nappies, dh forgot to put pull up pants on ds one night and we've not looked back (yet) since! Have to confess main success with training has been bribe of chocolate button if he performs in potty/toilet. Would have given him whole packet if necessary to bribe not wetting the bed!
Good luck. Do follow his lead as far as you can. I was getting stressed at how poor ds was to train - just being impatient as it turned out.

No - my twin DDs are 3.9 and I've given up trying to get them dry at night, they're just not ready. I was getting up at 1.00am to change one lot of soggy sheets and then about 4.00am to change the other, too knackering so they're back in pull-ups until I see a few dry ones.

my 4.5 yr old dd isn't dry at night. perfectly normal.

As a postnatal doula I see 3, 4 and 5 year old kids all the time - the vast majority are not at all dry at night.... I have no clue what it is down to... wish I knew as I could sell the book then! DS was dry at 2years 4 months and DD at 2.... and neither has ever had a night accident. They were both dry of their own accord as I thought they were far too young for that so with DS in particular it was only after 7 days of a dry night nappy in the AM that I realised he was dry. Needless to say I have never had to get them to the tilet before I went to bed.... I have no idea what it is down too.

I was going to post on this too as my DS2 is 4 and still wet at night. Glad to see there are others too.

My DS1 is 4.3 and he's been dry during the day since he was just 2. I assumed that he would become dry at night around 3years, but he shows absolutely no signs atall of being ready. We lift him at about 11 o'clock when we go to bed, but it seems to make no difference. Was starting to wonder if there was a problem, but having read this I am reassured. At what age does it become a problem that needs action?

nicmum2boys, normally only treated as a problem when they reach 6 or 7. lifting at the same time every night may cause problems because you're not helping their bladder to learn apparently. ERIC, the enuresis people have some fantastic leaflets on this.

I have a lot of sympathy for you emma.

Gave up night-time training with DS (3yrs 3 months) a few months back. Was still wetting the bed despite the fact that we used to put him on the potty whilst he was half asleep between 10 and 11pm.

Will try again in the New Year (as Baby 2 due in May and do not want to fork out for two sets of nappies), but we shall see...

emmatmg, if he doesn't want to go back into nappies you could try the pampers bed mats. Although if he is wetting three or more times a week it may be expensive.

My 3.5 year old is mostly dry but we probably have an accident once every couple of weeks. I put a bed mat under his bottom sheet so he doesn't even know it's there and it saves the bed getting wet. It also soaks up the wee so he isn't lying in a puddle.

When he was wetting two or three times a week i kept the mat on top of the bottom sheet (so he is actually lying on it) and this saved me having to keep changing sheets.

Good luck

oh, and i was told not to lift them to the toilet at night as this was counter productive. Both ds1 and ds2 go to the toilet before bed and are then left. Even ds1 (6 and a half) occasionally still wets the bed if in a deep sleep.

no it is normal for them still to be wet, dont worry

I'm glad to read all this.

A bit silly but I've been comparing him to Ds1 who was dry at night just a few weeks after being dry during the day and he was 2.5 yr's at the time. Ridiculous really as they are like chalk and cheese in every aspect so why I;m camparing them I'l never know.

I did mean to buy some nappies/pull-ups today but forgot so may well be washing sheets tomorrow too.

I did wonder if all the lifting at night might be counter productive. Seems logical really doesn't it?

Arrgghhh!
the face is for me forgetting, not Ds wetting.

I'd be banned for being the worst mum on MN!!!!

My lovely 3.2 year old is still in nappies in the daytime - so sorry, no advice!
And ds is a chocolate fiend and as even the promise of chocolate buttons doesn't change his behaviour I think he really isn't ready. Gloom!

Sorry haven't read all of this thread but your situation sounds similar to mine, DS 3.5, dry daytime well over a year and now point blank refuses to wear nappy at night. No real advice, sounds like you are doing pretty much the same as us, we are probably down to around one wet a week now so it does get better!

Sorry, not read whole thread either but no, ds1 is 3yr 8m and not dry at night. Funnily enough I was talking to a friend today and thought I might try it but will wait till we move house in Jan. He's got good bladder control and has been fully dry since New Year so I might just take the nappy off and see how it goes. If it goes badly I'll just put it back on as I seem to keep seeing people post that theirs are still not dry at night at 6 or over.

Would like for him to be fully dry by reception next yr though.

I've just taken dd to the GP, as she still wets the bed most nights, and she's 5. The GP assured me that it's perfectly normal, and that she still sees children of 10 who wet the bed. I'm thinking of buying shares it Drynites - they're costing us a fortune.

what finally worked for us was taking our ds1's pj bottoms off at night - we realised for the past 3 years he was so use to the feeling of the elastic nappy around his waist and was confusing the pj's for a nappy and relaxing and having a wee when he was half asleep. we also have the potty right by his bed with a night light and gently reminded every night until it clicked that he can go on the potty. we also stopped saying 'wet' and focused on when he and the bed were 'dry' which kept things positive. hope it helps

Well, he's snoozing now with a nappy on. Unfortunatley it one of his little brothers and he's oly 14 months so it's a tad on the small side.

Still I can relax and not worry about getting up in the night to carry a great big lump of 3 yr old to the loo!

When I put it on him, after bath time he said " don't tell *** (ds1), we can just hide it under here" pointing and whispering at his PJ bottoms. Bless him.

I promised to buy him some big boy bed time pants tomorrow. Pull-up to you and me

how odd....I put 5 * for ds1's name and it cut them off.

try it again
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Bless his little heart .

wierd!
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that should be 5 again.