Should you leave your baby to cry?

[KangaMummy]

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I know Slinky, that's what I mean!

I think this Margot woman is talking about hours of blatantly ignoring which anyone on here would agree with I think.

I really don't know how Mums with screaming colicky babies or babies that are up all night cope - respect to you all. There have been times though where for me the crying has gone on long enough and I've had to put the baby down and walk away for 10 mins. To me that's perfectly sensible and sadly, some end up lashing out because they don't do that Better to walk away!

And FFS, I don't usually think that you have to have endured parenthood to make any comment on child development, but sometimes quite frankly it's them or you. And when I say you, I mean that you are being pushed so near the limit by your baby's screams that you HAVE to get away from him/her before you either do something to the baby or to yourself.

I think leaving a baby to cry for 1.5 hours is wrong.And if the baby stopped crying after three nights that makes me feel a bit sad, it reminds me of the nspcc advert where the little boy was in his cot and they said he doesn't cry anymore because he knows noone will come.For me it smacks of breaking their spirit.
But cc were they are being checked and soothed every 5 or 10 mins, surely that sdifferent altogether?

I don't know anyone who would be willing to leave their children crying for over an hour without checking them.

I wouldn't be surprised if those children whos parents would do that end up stressed and depressed, not from the crying but from having such an uncaring family.

and leaving a child to cry for 5-10mins and checking up on them is totally different IMO

I've left my little boy crying for up to about 15 minutes, but no longer. He's never gone to sleep without crying himself to sleep though.

Yep, we just have to let ds complain for a few minutes some nights or he would simply never go down. In fact, I firmly believe that I caused his disruptive sleep pattern to begin with because I picked him up at the slightest whimper for the first 6 months. After that, when he was still waking every 2 hours we knew we had to do something else or the little tyke would be growing up without a mummy!

Where in the world does thissychologist get the idea that being a guardian (doe she mean like a godparent?) in any way compares to going through the 24 hour a day process of parenting?

Yet another thing for us parents to feel guilty about.
I am fed up with so called experts telling us that we're damaging our baies for various reasons working, not working, leaving them with nurseries who abuse them etc. Now we have controlled crying.
Persoanlly speaking I couldn't do this - found it too difficult to listen to my baby crying - we'd both end up in tears. However, in the end I had to remind myself that he needed to sleep and I was doing him no favours by lifting him every time he cried. He wasn't learning to put himself to sleep. What I did in the end (when he was 10 months) was sit in the room with him with minimal interaction and just gently reinforce "it's time to sleep" and lie him down. If he got too distressed then I would lift and cuddle and start again. Took a month but it worked. He's slept through the night ever since (he'll be 2 in December).
Lets not feel guilty just because we've struggled through a procedure which helps our babies get the sleep they need.