Hi everyone I haven’t posted on here before but I am really at a loss.
To give some background we have 2 boys ages 4.5years and 15 months and we are currently living with my parents while our house is renovated. We have been here since the start of November 2021.
My partner works shifts and then works on the house. I work part time and am trying to build a new business.
We have had a lot of trouble with our youngest sleeping as he was teething awfully for a few months and it was really tough. During this period I asked my partner if he could get up with him at the weekend so I could have a lie in (he woke anything between 4am and 4.30am every single day for about 2months). His reply to this was this was my job as he is working and then going to the house and working. My role is to sort the kids out while this ongoing renovation is going on. He said it was not good for him to have to get up early and then go and work all day at the house. This really really annoyed me as to me I just needed 1 morning to lay in (only till 7.30) to reset me so I could carry on again for who knows how long.
We had an argument and I told him I don’t agree at all.
It has been left from then as the youngest started sleeping better and now gets up closer to 6am which is easier for me to deal with.
I asked again last night could I have a lay in tomorrow and he said ask your mum and dad. I cannot believe he really thought I was going to ask my parents to get up at that time with his children.
It’s now really bothering me, I understand he is working hard at work and on our renovation but so am I. I think there should be some kind of support coming from him, I’m not asking for all the time just once a week that he make the effort and get up so I can have 1 morning a week.
Am I being unreasonable?
There is now an atmosphere in the house with is making it so awkward as my parents no there is an atmosphere.
Any advice would be so welcomed.
Thanks