What is my sister’s problem??

[HeatherandI]

Yesterday, my sister and my parents visited at our house for lunch. My sister has always been somewhat inappropriate, as in she has literally no filter whatsoever. They haven’t visited in a while, and I keep hoping that my sister would stop it, but she always makes homophobic jokes in front of me and my partner. She doesn’t say it in a mean way exactly, more like she finds the whole thing hilarious, and can’t take us seriously, even though we have been married for over ten years, and have three children. I don’t know where she gets this from - my parents aren’t like this. I have no idea why she keeps on making inappropriate and homophobic jokes, and i don’t want her being a bad influence on the kids.

Well her problem is that she's a homophobe. Do you call her out on it? Do your parents? Your kids will pick up on it.

Yeah. I cannot understand this. My sister father in law was like this. They’ve cut them out after they had kids. There is no space for people like that in the kids lives.

I don't get this - have you actually said to her "er, stop being a prick". If not, why not? If so, any she's ignored even with your kids there, then cut her out. It's not fair on your, your DP and defo not your kids. Or your parents really.

You need to be having some stern words with her, not good exposure for your kids.

Don’t have her in your house. People who behave disrespectfully to you behave this way because they don’t respect you.

Wtf? Why are you still inviting her around?? Homophobic jokes are not jokes at all. I’d go NC and make it very clear to your parents that she isn’t welcome in your home.