Only children do you worry about yours

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I am always worrying about my DS he is an only child.
I am concerned that he is missing out on something being an only no siblings to play with.
I also feel guilty about the fact that I am extremely shy and as a consequence I don't have any friends with children of his age he can get together with.

My sisters children have all grown up so he doesn't have any cousins of his own age.

There doesn't appear to ever be any children out playing in our street that he can join in with but then again I would probably worry about the dangers of cars etc anyway.

I did start sending him to scouts which he enjoyed for the first few weeks and then it became a battle getting him to go so he gave it up his excuse for not liking it was that they all shout too loud.

My DP thinks I worry for no reason as he seems happy enough which he does most of the time.

He has many friends at school and seems quite popular but this is the only contact he has with other children.

I have had a few of his school friends back for tea after school and he enjoys this even though he rarely gets an invite back.

I do feel my DS misses out on alot due to my shyness and lack of friends.
Does anybody else feel like me.

Yes I do, my DD is an only and I am very shy and don't have a lot of friends, none of those I do have DC my DD's age. She does have cousins but she was the first by almost 5 years on both sides so they're all too little for her really.
She's also popular at school etc, but I do stress about it a lot.
How old is your DS?

My DS has just turned 7.

There is loads of things I have wanted to take him to events at the local library etc, but me and my ds seem the odd ones out as everybody else seems to be with another mom and their children.

I really lack confidence to take my ds to anything and I know for certain if I could go with another mom I would be okay.

I try to drag my DP along to things if he isn't at work but he is never really that interested in coming with us.

I have made the effort to take my ds out but always feel that he really could have done with the company of another child.

Sounds very familiar! My dd turns 7 at the beginning of March. I'm a single mum so don't have a dp/dh to drag along.
I know exactly what you mean about always feeling like an odd one out, I often feel like that. I am finding it a lot easier as DD gets older though, very luckily for us I think, DD despite my shyness is very extrovert and now she's older is taking on her own 'social life' iykwim.

I do worry about dd (2.5) and make a big effort to have playdates for her. I'm not shy at all but dd is painfully shy and I really don't think it's a phase. Even though I'm not shy I do prefer to go to kiddy places with another mom. Some places are easier on your own than others - parks and wildlife parks I find are great on your own.

It seems though, that us moms of onlies will always be the ones making most of the running with the invites etc as other moms don't feel the same need and are busy with other children. I feel a bit left out because of only having one child - it feels as though everyone has moved on and left me behind a bit.