5 month old rolled off sofa

[Lemonadesun]

Hello, my baby has started rolling a lot more now and well just as the title says DD rolled off the sofa 😔 Out sofa is 30cm off the floor but she still rolled off.
I was in the kitchen and my DH changed her nappy on the sofa, got up to walk 3 steps to get a nappy because he forgot to get one before changing her and in that 2 seconds she has shifted herself off the sofa. We put her in the car to take her to the Dr’s straight away and the Dr gave her a really good check over and basically told us that her kids have done far worse and our little one will have worse bumps than this and that she is completely fine and showing no signs of being hurt at all, she cried straight away and she didn’t vomit or black out so the Dr was more than happy to send us home.
Only thing is now I’m feeling so much guilt and and I wasn’t even downstairs when it happened, I just feel like the worst mother ever and even though she’s completely fine I just can’t help but feel awful about. I’ve told one person that it happened and now I feel like I’m being judged well and truly and that I’m not looking after my baby properly and just the guilt is eating at me and I feel like this person looks at me differently now. I just feel so awful for my little one that this happened as well, feel sick to my stomach, sorry for the long post!

The Dr is right, but that doesn't stop the guilt though, you are not a bad mother at all and accidents do happen, thankfully children are great at bouncing back, my DS 5 recently come home from school with a big graze on his face and even though I wasn't there I felt really guilty, one of the perks of parenthood.

Honestly, almost every parent has a story like this. It's horrible at the time but accidents happen. Now you know she's rolling just make sure you don't leave her on the bed or sofa. I once almost tipped my youngest out of his car seat when I picked it up, I got flashbacks for weeks and he didn't actually fall out!

I think every single parent has had a baby roll from a sofa or bed at some point. It is always a shock but part of me thinks that it’s natures way of building up parents resilience for the years to come!

Your baby is fine. But make sure neither you or DH risk it again.
It doesn't always end well, I know of a child who was left with life altering injury from rolling off a bed.

This is nothing. You are a lovely mum. Guilt is unnecessary and pointless.

I am pretty sure I wouldn't have even taken her to Dr.

Ah, and least helpful comment award goes to.....

It happens to us all. Mine have rolled off beds and sofas, slipped off dining chairs. My 15 month old once fell off the side of a small climbing frame thankfully the ground was fairly soft. The worst was went my 4 year was climbing one of the farm gates and went head first over the top. It was the only time I’ve been grateful for a mud yard rather than a concrete one!

@SummerHouse

Ah, and least helpful comment award goes to.....

Probably me! But if you have a baby you really don't want to discover the day they learn to roll that they hurt themselves. Yes, accidents happen - but many could be prevented with a little more forward planning.

@Beamur

Your baby is fine. But make sure neither you or DH risk it again. It doesn't always end well, I know of a child who was left with life altering injury from rolling off a bed.

Really not helpful. The op needs reassurance and positive stories right now. How are you helping in any way?

First thing I said!

Read the title and thought 'standard!'. It's happened to most of us. One minute they can't do it and the next minute they can. Both of mine have rolled off at least one bed/sofa (and once off a changing table - I did tell my OH they could shimmy down it!). Baby is fine, just now you know she can roll, you don't risk it again - sorted!

I dropped my dd when she was that age, I bent down to get something and just...dropped her, onto a really thin rug which was on flagstone flooring, I still feel bad about that but she was absolutely fine. I also cracked her head whilst going through a door, I acknowledged that one more than she did though! It happens op, don't beat yourself up about it. We all have stories like this.

Welcome to the world of mum-guilt! And this wasn't even your fault, it was your partner's mistake. Put it beind you OP. Your baby is fine x

Oh Op, it's almost a right of passage!
All of mine have done it at some point. Dd1 rolled off her change table whilst I was in the room because her godmother didn't know she could roll.
I also walked her into an open cupboard door once and have caught all them whilst cutting their nails.
Dd2 rolled off the couch whilst I turned to get a nappy and ds rolled off our bed, narrowly missing a drawer handle. He wasn't rolling at that point but decided to start the minute I left the room!
Whilst I felt awful every time I'm a good few years down the line now and have spoken to so many people who have had similar.
In fact ds seemed to spend his toddler-hood trying to break himself. We found him, at 18 months, hanging by his fingertips over the side of his sisters cabin bed! He hadn't even been able to climb the ladder the week before. All we heard was 'heeeellllp'

Oh and another silly one is dd1 used to commando crawl and push herself backwards. One day I 'lost' her in the living room! I could hear her crying but couldn't actually see her. She had pushed herself backwards round the back of the chair and then under it! All that was poking out was the top of her head
I laugh about it now but for a few seconds I was full on panicking!

We had our dreaded "baby falling" moment when DS was 4 months. I had sat him up on the middle of the bed, turned to get a sock and then turned back to see him slowly fall to the side and off the bed. I ran and screamed but didn't quite reach him.
He was shocked and cried for a good minute but then it was like nothing happened. I felt guilty for at least a week and even cried about it.

I think the inevitable guilt is natural but you should use it as motivation to try and prevent accidents in future rather than beating yourself up.

I discovered my DS could roll when I took my eyes off for a second when I changed his nappy. He flipped and rolled from the changing station straight into the cardboard box next to it. The lids flipped shut and for a moment he disappeared and I thought “where the hell is he?”
No harm done and he finds the story funny now ( 27 and a normal human being I think).

@CassieJumped

Oh and another silly one is dd1 used to commando crawl and push herself backwards. One day I 'lost' her in the living room! I could hear her crying but couldn't actually see her. She had pushed herself backwards round the back of the chair and then under it! All that was poking out was the top of her head I laugh about it now but for a few seconds I was full on panicking!

Oh you've just reminded of a time before my son could crawl, I'd left him on a rug in the middle of an empty room thinking nothing could possibly cause an issue for the 30 seconds I was out the room. Came back to find half of him wedged under the sofa. I really regret not taking a photo but he was my pfb so I panicked and grabbed him before the sofa decided to collapse or something .

All babies will have a fall like that, we've had many (I was proud of making it almost to a year before he fell off the sofa but now he's more than made up for it 🙃) and I have no doubt there'd have been many more if luck hadn't been on my side at those particular times. The guilt does get easier too!

Oh OP, I know how you feel! My 5mo DD was reaching for a toy in the bath this morning, slipped and went in face first. It's honestly the worst, and I keep replaying it in my mind, she's forgotten all about it...

Your bubba will be fine and no one is judging you! X

Thank you to everyone of you, thank you so much! I do feel a bit more relieved definitely and thank you for the stories as well (I may have giggled sorry haha) when you do look back it’s obviously not as bad as you remember because everything seems worse when you think back on it!
I know as well it could have been a lot lot worse and that’s what I’m kicking myself about, i really blame myself even though I wasn’t in the room because if I came out of the kitchen then I probably would have caught her and it wouldn’t have happened 😔
She’s completely fine though that’s the main thing! I really do feel like we’ve been judged by the people I’ve told, as if we don’t look after her properly and they view us different it’s probably me overthinking it but that’s just the feeling I’m getting from these people and it’s making me feel more guilty than before! Especially don’t want anyone thinking differently of my husband because he loves our baby more than anything on this planet he literally turned around for 2 seconds 😔 thanks again everyone one I really appreciate it 💗

1. this has happened to most people
2. parenting = constant guilt

Please give yourself a break

@Finfintytint

I discovered my DS could roll when I took my eyes off for a second when I changed his nappy. He flipped and rolled from the changing station straight into the cardboard box next to it. The lids flipped shut and for a moment he disappeared and I thought “where the hell is he?” No harm done and he finds the story funny now ( 27 and a normal human being I think).

This is hilarious. Though obviously not at the time.

Are you even a parent unless you've accidentally let your baby roll off something, dropped him or smacked their head putting them in the car seat. It's a rite of passage. Just one that makes you feel really crap about yourself.

My mum shoved my face into a cactus when I was but a wee dot.

She was carrying me around the house in the early hours because I wouldn't sleep, heard sirens and leaned into the bay window to see where they were... stuck my face right into the cactus on the windowsill.

My daughter broke two bones in her arm when she fell off the monkey bars, I didn't catch her in time... I felt awful about that for months!

We've all been there, the doctor is absolutely correct. Don't stress your head.