would you tell her you know or drop hints

[shockedanddisapointed]

While emptying our computer recycle bin I saw some pictures my DD had taken with the webcam, one was topless and one was naked. she is 11 and just starting to develop. She often plays on the webcam and records herself singing and takes silly pictures, BUT I never expected to see this.

NOW would you tell her you've seen her pictures and have her cringing with embarresment for the rest of her life, or would you drop hints and say I hope your using that sensibly and not doing anything silly or it may get sent to family by accident sort of thing...

I did the mirror thing at as a teenager as well. Mostly wishing that I looked prettier or was more developed! Webcams are ok so long as she knows they should only be used fully-clothed!

I am pleased you mentioned it. As cringing as these things are at first, they can be the chink in opening the door for her to know that she can trust you to safely discuss issues of a sexual nature with her.

I feel a bit uneasy about an 11 year old having a webcam and access to the internet in her room. Or is this just me? We have our computers in communal rooms so that dp and I can discreetly glance at what the dcs are doing. They are 12 and 6. I intend to keep computers out of bedrooms for as long as I possibly can.

agree with seeker.

who said the webcam was in her room... the pc's in the lounge.. fgs... we'd popped out for an hour and left her home alone...

Very educational for the rest of us to see how easily and quickly something like this can happen. I think you did the right thing - the whole pc access thing is a nightmare!

I am not sure about the whole panic shock horror thing

what has actually happened? she has taken some photos of herself, for herself to look at

then she has deleted them

errr

that's it

she was not in danger at any point here

I agree it is right to keep pc in public area, and be aware of what your children are doing online, but keep some proportion as well - the OP's dd was never in any danger during this situation

Sorry, sandd - I wasn't having a go at you. It was intended to be more of a general point.

Sounds like she's curious about her body, doesn't it?

Have you got any books for her about puberty and stuff?

i think the op handled it v. well

welld oen you

i wouldnt re connect the webcame anytime soon.

i hate the things.

I wouldn't leave a webcam connected or accessable to a kid that age.

[sits back and waits for 'home alone' ruckus to start]

i wouldnt let a kid of any age have one unsuprvised