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School parties

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RedCandyApple · 03/02/2022 17:55

My daughter is in reception and hasn’t been invited to any parties at all, I heard in reception children get invited to lots of parties but nothing? Is this unusual or are some schools just not big on parties? My older children never got invited to parties either but I always put it down to the fact they have asd and didn’t really have friends but hoped it would be different this time, dd does mention that she has friends...

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moita · 03/02/2022 19:23

From speaking to friends I think it differs with each school. My son's class all seem to do whole class parties and we did as well for his birthday. So yes since September he's had about 11 parties so fat including his own.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 03/02/2022 19:25

None in our reception class yet- I think partially because of covid in the winter people didn’t want to book and cancel and partially because of money- the school isn’t in the most affluent area

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RedCandyApple · 03/02/2022 19:29

Wow 11! I have started to think parties are just not a thing in my kids school.

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Merriwicks · 03/02/2022 19:31

There are only 8 girls in my dd class and so far there has been 3 parties including her own and ony girls are being invited. I'm not sure if boys are doing the same thing. There has been no invites to any of the boys parties and I haven't heard of them having any.

Montague22 · 03/02/2022 19:35

I’d say about 1/5 or 1/4 of class are having parties at my child’s school. We’ve had 3 invites but those have all been since Christmas.

RaisinforBeing · 03/02/2022 19:40

A few years ago there were loads of parties in Reception and Year 1. Covid has killed off most of this. There have been so many measures that have killed off social contact at school- bubbles in the class, no after school / before school clubs, no PTA events, no class / mum coffee meet ups, no helpers required in school, staggered drop off and pick up times, etc. Most of the socialising opportunities IMO have gone with the wind. Under this guise yes, there are far fewer parties too. Even a lot of party places near us are closed down (went bust!). My child in Y1 had a small party recently with only 8 other kids. He has been to 2 others since Sept last year. It’s so different for him compared to his older siblings. Such a terrible shame!

OnceuponaRainbow18 · 03/02/2022 19:42

I’d say we’ve had about 3 class parties out of about 15 kids bday-
But then I’m unsure if the others had smaller parities mine weren’t invited to

TracyMosby · 03/02/2022 19:43

What parties dis your children have?

Figmentofimagination · 03/02/2022 19:46

My reception DS has been to 2 parties so far, 1 was a reception friend and 1 was for a friend from his nursery who doesn't start reception till next sept. He's also been invited to a birthday party for a year 1 child.

I know I won't be doing a big birthday party when it's his turn. Just going to take a couple of friends to a local attraction for a couple of hours.

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RedCandyApple · 03/02/2022 19:53

@TracyMosby

What parties dis your children have?

Her birthday is in the summer, I didn’t realise people threw random parties for their children? I meant birthday parties

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4intheCorner · 03/02/2022 19:53

Just 12 kids in DC's class. We've had only 1 class party, and I know of 2 kids who turned 5 and there was no party at all.

I'm pushing for a whole class party for DC, but he's admant he only wants the boys invited but I guess it's his choice.

Tbh, there's not a lot going on in Reception class, parents don't seem to chat, or do play dates so I'm thinking covid has had a big impact on socialising.

TracyMosby · 03/02/2022 19:55

I bet thats it you know. Because you dd hasn't had her birthday yet so she wont get reciprocal invites.

I mainly meant did your older child have class parties? If she did and didnt get invited back to any, id think that was incredibly odd of the other families.

SMBC2020 · 03/02/2022 19:59

I teach that age and I think there's a lot less birthday parties this year compared to previous years. Some children (the ones with a March birthday) haven't had a party for 3 years. It's such a shame! It's not just covid but also the cost of living has gone up so much and parties are expensive!

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RedCandyApple · 03/02/2022 20:00

No my older kids have asd and don’t like crowds/busy places/loud noises so no I didn’t do parties but I heard most kids have class parties regardless of whether they are invited to others or not, how would you know if someone had a birthday and didn’t have a party or not as you wouldn’t know when their birthday was. I wasn’t really focusing on my older ones as older ones as they struggle socially so I think that’s why they were never invited but my youngest is the opposite and very sociable and I’ve always heard how there’s loads of parties in reception.

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Skyeheather · 03/02/2022 20:02

Four children had a birthday at my son's school last term, none of them had a party maybe due to Covid restrictions or not knowing if many people would want to go due to Covid or maybe because they had just started school and the kids don't really know each other that well?

My son has two whole class parties coming up, both of them are costing the parents around £250/300 per party. With increasing prices on everything and today's fuel price news maybe people can't afford it this year?

There was a boy in my son's class celebrating his birthday today, he's not having a party. We didn't do a party for DS last term, just could not afford to invite the whole class just before Christmas.

ItsSnowJokes · 03/02/2022 20:05

I know of 3 parties last term (my child wasn't invited) and we held one recently but only invited 10 out of a class of 30. We did have to think hard cos of covid, but decided they are together all day anyway.

We have been invited to 1 for next month, so that will be the first one for us to attend as a guest.

Skyeheather · 03/02/2022 20:07

At my son's school everyone gathers round to sing Happy Birthday to the birthday child on their birthday then the birthday child gets to tell everyone what they got, what they're doing to celebrate etc, that's how we know it's someone's birthday.

1forward2back · 03/02/2022 22:06

Don’t worry. It’s covid. People used to have big parties and invite all 30 kids in the class to a hall. Covid has meant it’s smaller gatherings and there’s lots of time for your DC - it’s only February too - more of the bigger parties will happen in the summer

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