I’d love a second child. Is it unreasonable of me to feel frustrated at partner for being unsure for so long.

[Muma2one]

Hi all. My daughter recently turned two and for a while now I’ve wanted to try for a second baby. OH says he wants another baby but he’s not sure when. Every month when it gets to around ovulation time he appears positive at times but at the same time still doesn’t commit to it. I keep getting - I think it will be next month etc it It’s frustrating and every month I feel like I am being given false hope. Am I being unreasonable for being so frustrated by this? How would you react?

I have had a similar experience in the sense that I've been ready for a while for number two, and my dh has been more reserved about it. Having a baby was a drastic life change (as it is for anyone) and I knew that I'd need dh totally on board and excited about number 2, otherwise it would feel like I had steamrolled him into having another. I did find it frustrating waiting for him to be ready as we'd always agreed on the age gap we'd like so I do sympathise with you. In the end, we had an honest conversation about what we'd both like and any reservations and this helped. I'm now far more chilled about it. I would like a second but I want one when we're both on board. It does help that my period hasn't yet returned (18m pp) so we'd be unlikely to conceive anyway.

I'd suggest having a sit down conversation where you both get to explain how you're feeling. If you're tracking your ovulation this may feel quite pressurising for your dh as it's making him feel the need to make a decision each month. He probably wants to make you happy but it does sound like he's not quite ready. I know it's hard but try and listen to his perspective if he's willing to talk about it.