3 year old behaviour I really need help

[mummybear2918]

My DD is 3 years old was a very happy little girl and pretty good most of the time. A few weeks ago when she got home from daycare I wasn't there as her 20 month old brother was taken to hospital and since they day she changed especially lately she won't go near anyone else apart from me, clings to me at home won't let anyone else do anything for her always me. She throws worse tantrums stamps her feet and me screams and me Right now if I don't get her something there and then and really shouts horrible at me and to top it off at home she pee and poos herself on purpose. Daycare have noticed she's become teary (at daycare cause I work) but she doesn't pee herself there, doesn't throw these tantrums she good as good there. I'm ignoring the behaviour as I think she snaps out of it fast. Anyone else child go through anything like this I'm at my wicks ends making me so upset

Have you sat down with her quietly when she's not kicking off, and talked calmly about her brother going to hospital and you not being there as normal after day care?
I had similar with dd when she was 3, her dad was suddenly rushed to hospital (having been in and discharged previously).
Once I actually sat and talked it all through with her she blurted out "but daddy might not be here when I come back". She was so anxious about the whole situation which we thought we were protecting her from. Turns out she's been catastrophising everything and it built up and up into all sorts of outbursts.

My advice, be really open. When she asked me "is daddy going to die?" I was truthful - he might. He didn't and 22 years later I have never forgotten the importance of being as truthful and open as is age appropriate. And acknowledging their fears, even if you don't think they're especially rational.
Good luck

She sounds scared and overwhelmed and needs understanding and reassurance. I agree that you need to talk to her about it.