3 week old wants to be held all the time

[WinterBabyx]

First time mum here and about the first week/week and a half of babies life they slept in the Moses basket great you could pop them down and they’d nap for an hour or so

As the weeks have gone on it’s like they notice I’m not there and wake near enough as soon as I pop them down and want me to hold them/rock them to sleep or to sleep on my chest.

I don’t mind this I know these moments won’t come back! And I love my baby unconditionally and our cuddles. My only worry is , is this normal? I have nothing to compare this to and some people have said baby is clingy so it’s made me worry it’s abnormal?

They’ll sleep in the bed side cot for longer! It’s just in the day they won’t sleep unless someone has them or if we’ve been on a long walk they’ll be flat out then for a little period of time

Absolutely perfectly normal. Please ignore people who say baby is clingy, it’s absolutely ridiculous saying a 3 week old baby is clingy.

A 3 week old baby can't be clingy.
It's very normal for a baby to want to be touching/close to their mother.

All fine, enjoy baby cuddles

If there was a job description for teeny tiny babies, this is what it would say:

You will demand to be held/rocked/fed/not out down.

Progression is at your own discretion.

End of job description.

3 weeks? Completely normal.

Who said he was clingy? I’m gonna guess it was someone of the older generation?

Enjoy the cuddles, the biggest lesson of being a new mum I've found is if it works, is safe, and your both happy ignore what everyone says and do your own thing. My 7 month old has only just started having naps in his cot, babies love a cuddle it's totally normal 🤗

I think this is absolutely normal. That baby has known nothing but you for nine months, it doesn't want you going anywhere

Really first few weeks, rest up, coffee in a flask, netflix, cuddles on the sofa. Repeat daily.

In a few weeks time a sling will be your best friend, as it will allow you to potter.

Also, there are umpteen idiots happy to tell you that you aren't doing it right, ignore them. Once a woman told me my baby was looking too hot and to take his hat and coat off (in an indoor shopping centre) and I did, and then 5 mins later another woman told me my baby was going to be too cold and where was his hat and coat

Yes.
It’s 100% normal. All 3 of my DCs spent majority of their first year of life in a sling because they were all of the un-put-downable variety

Cuddle that baby as much as you damn well please!! Weird people tell you not to spoil your baby by cuddling him/her. Babies are supposed to be clingy? What do people think your 3 week old should be independent and off to uni?! I had the same crap told to me when mine were babies. It's impossible to cuddle a baby too much.

Normal. Google 4th trimester. All they've known is the inside of you, the works is big and scary when they're so little and unused to it xx

World not works

Perfectly normal and natural.

You can’t hold/cuddle a baby too much, follow your instincts and ignore anyone giving “helpful” advice.

To add, my HV said to me at my first visit post birth, you can't spoil a newborn baby have all the cuddles you want.

Thank you everyone it was probably a stupid question but it’s my first baby I’m
Constantly worrying if I’m doing everything right and if they’re okay

Yep - comments came from in laws and both of mine and DH’s grandparents so we’re older generation

I feel a lot better I love our cuddles and baby is so much more settled when we’re close and cuddling I feel like I’m doing something right when I do this :)

You’ll get a lot of people saying ridiculous things to you over the next 18 years or so. This behaviour is SO SO normal. Look up ‘the fourth trimester’. Get a good stretchy sling if you don’t already have one to keep your hands free. You’re doing everything just right! xx

All of mine spent the first 6 months of their life either in my arms or in a stretchy sling cuddled up against me. Didn't harm any of them and they are all lovely and independent now. Plus the sling actually meant I could get stuff done, especially with babies 2 and 3.

Zucchini beat me to it. 4th trimester is spot on. If you feel you need some backup or free arms your local sling consultancy will have it in buckets. Try this: www.slingpages.co.uk/

Yep, that's what they do! You're doing great op.

Sounds like you're in tune and receptive to your baby's needs so you're doing great

Enjoy the snuggles!

Wow, how did I know it was someone from an older generation who said it. I must be psychic!

And yes a sling is great, DS basically lived in one for the first few months of his life.

Your baby has been with you for up to 9 months, then suddenly they’re all alone, of course they want to be in your arms.
You can’t spoil a baby with cuddles, especially at 3 weeks old!

Older family members said exactly the same critical remarks when I carried my newborn DC in a sling all the time. Made me feel bad that I was "spoiling" them. Obviously completely ridiculous but with my first I felt really under confident so it made me doubt myself.

With my second I just smiled and ignored then. Did all naps in stretchy sling for first 3-4 mths and then she suddenly decided she didn't like that anymore and slept in the pram for all her naps.

Enjoy the lovely peaceful cuddles!

Normal ! My daughter pretty much would only sleep on my check for about 3 weeks when she was first born, it passes x enjoy it x

Awww that was my son too, the first 4 months he'd only ever contact nap on me even though he slept perfectly fine in his next 2 me in the night. It was lovely overall but also very hard in terms of not being able to get anything done. He just needed to be close to me and was also a refluxy baby and much preferred to stay upright during the day. The do grow out of this pretty fast so try to make the most of all the cuddles ❤ Congratulations, it sounds 100% normal, don't worry xxx