This parenting malarkey really getting me down i need to vent......

[CharleeSawMummyKissingSanta]

God i have to vent, i have put the kids to bed with such bad feelings towards them, the poor buggers are only 3 and 1 yet they drive me nuts and they're only doing things every other kids does.

Don't get me wrong i love my boys to death and i would never be without them but sometimes i just get so frustrated with them, then the worst part is i feel guilty for having these bad feelings towards them.

I'm not even sure if that is normal fgs! Let alone if what i just wrote makes sense.

I find DS1 the worst, it sounds stupid but i get frustrated whn i go above and beyone for him with his medication, physio and everythin and the whole time he is being naughty and rebeling againt his treatment, he kicks and screams at me when i am doing his physio and nebulisers, he is screaming 'your hurting me' when i know im not but i feel so bad, like im constantly the bad guy.
Again don't get me wrong i never expect him to be greatful for the things i do, i am his mum i want and expect to do anything it takes to keep him safe and well but sometimes i feel like walking out.

DS2 is wrecking the whole house, i am forever leaving relatives homes becuase he is destroying thier things,or drawring blood by biting them.
They fight like cat and dog and my head is full of 'muuuuuummm'! and crying.
They are covered in bruises where they hit and push each oyhet, although ds2 (1) doesn't know what he is doing but still bites and hits ds1 and ds1 retaliates.

I know, i know this is all normal parent life and normaly i am fine but tonight its all getting on top of me.

Before anyone says it, i have no one to take them while i go out for a brak and i already have a charity worker who comes to help me out. Like i say i am usually ok just having a bad day.

to me feeling like that is normal!

my boys 6 and 9 are fighting and knocking the shite out of each other just now, God I wish they were in bed!

take a deep breath, pour a glass of something and relax!

ssd xx

I think most of us could have written posts like this some days (me, yesterday for example!). No words of wisdom to offer you but feel free to vent away as it often helps to let off a bit of steam. Hopefully knowing other mums often feel the same might make you feel a bit better. Pour yourself a large drink, have some chocolate and tomorrow is another day!

awww poor you! No advice i'm afraid, but just to take a deep breath, poor yourself a large glass of vino and have a good cry if you need to. Obviously the boys dont play up just to spite you as they're far too young for that, but i empathise how frustrating it is for you.

Chin up Charlee.

Sympathy....

It sounds like you are doing amazingly well, imo. I have also had days like that. Put it behind you. Tomorrow you will feel different.

Good Luck.

My DSs are also 3 and 1. I don't have to administer any medication whatosever (aprt from forcing Medised down their necks when they won't sleep) so even though I don't have that to cope with I feel like yu do alot, so please don't be so hard on yourself. I intend to start a thread on the whole "WHen do they stop bloody fighting/Learn to share?" topic, because although mine don't physically hurt each other (yet) they fight like cat and dog over the same toy every day. I got them EXACTLY the same things i their stocking to try and offset the inability to take turns with toys, but it didn't stop the scrapping.

I intend to:

Buy an egg timer and say they can take their turn with the toy/toys

Let them sort it out amongst themselves a bit more and not get so involved (obviously without letting them kill each other in the process

Start that thread I mentioned and see what other tips I can get.

You have it hard love, two small boys, one with special health needs, and a challenging younger one, have a glass of wine, take a deep breath, this hard bit is short term, honest.

HNY

x

Charlee

Sorry to hear about your problems.

Don't know if this will be any help, but we have been at the end of our tether, particularly with DT2 (11 1/2) as he can be very aggressive and difficult to manage.

I contacted Parentline Plus to see if there was anything they could do to help, I felt really ashamed as if it is something we have made, so it was really hard to take that step. They have been brilliant. As it happened the week after I rang they had a workshop on handling angry outbursts, which both DH and I attended. And then the following week we went to a class on self esteem and teenage behaviour. Some of the ladies who attended the angry outbursts had much younger children, but it helped just listening to other peoples' experiences and their tips and ways to deal with it.

It might be worth seeing if their is a branch near you, if not you could ring them to see if there is anything available.

My advice is to try to sort it while there are still young, it gets harder as they get bigger.

Good Luck

Kay

Sorry youre having crap time!!! I dont have same experience but have majorly changed my view on how hard parenting is after having DD2. With DD1 felt it was okay and quite enjoyed it but she was fairly good child. With DD2 it has been hard, hard slog as she has been so unsettled from start. so just wanted to say that its easy for some parents to act like its all dead easy when things going well as I did with my first but you only realise how hard it can be when it doesnt go according to plan. Not sure if that helps but just wanted you to know that it can go either way with parenting sometimes and you shouldnt feel bad about negative feelings. ive sometimes regretted having a second and that makes me feel awful but I know that they go through phases sometimes and come out the other side!!! Do speak to people about it if you can cos theres a lot of people out there having similar thoughts!!!