Child coughing on baby

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Every other weekend we visit my inlaws or they will visit us. Ny husband has nieces send nephews who we also see. I have a 6 month old and the kids adore him. 1 kid in particular tends to have a cough or some sort of snuffle. He always plays with my son and its OK but a couple of times he suddenly coughs and he tries to put his hand there but he has coughed all on my son and then he puts his hand there nervously but obviously that hand as his germs and he will continue to play. I have told him to move his face away but he is such a nervous little child and looks really upset and he does genuinely try.
9/10 times my baby ends up with cough after and it's just tiring. I know its good for the immune system etc but we see them often. Am I being too picky? I also hate going for this reason. Iv began holding my baby a lot more as I don't want the kid near him but they'll keep asking to play with him and il just say ah he's a bit a tired etc

Any advice?

You mentioned that your nephew does try not to cough on your baby, and that's all you can ask. You don't mention how old the nephew is?

There's a good chance (I presume?) that your baby will go to childcare for some of the time within the next six months, and they're going to meet a lot of new germs there. I think you need to try not to worry about this. Exposure to coughs and colds really is vital to building a healthy immune system xx

We used to be really cautious due to COVID and at the peak of it when DS was under 10 months we felt reluctant to meet with people/other kids who might have had colds recently. Then we realised our baby would get colds regardless even if we don’t see anyone, and then he started nursery and it was one cold after another. We learned that all babies/toddlers get ill regularly and we can’t stop life because of that.

If you have a second baby, its sibling will cough and sneeze all over it all day long!

I get that it's worrying given that were all so hyper aware of germs right now. Your little nephew is trying so hard and being a little star, to be honest. Most kids wouldn't, and in a way that's the sad thing about covid, that little kids have to be so worried now.

So yes, try to chill. Your nephew needs reassurance, and your baby is only in the same situation he'd be in of he was at nursery or had a sibling.

Yes of course we teach our kids not to cough in people's face but and a big but, Your nephew sounds lovely and is trying his best, that needs to be acknowledged to him, well done him.

Your baby will get germs throughout their years (which you acknowledge) and i do think this is something you need to try and get over, keep praising and encouraging your nephew to turn away and cough into his elbow, he's doing a great job.

Think you're being a tad PFB op. Unless these are the only people you see you can't guarantee that's the source. He sounds like a lovely little chap who's trying his best.

Agree with PP about when you have a second, I'm astounded my DC2 is as cheerful as he is given his brother brings back every thing from nursery and we're all constantly ill.

Yeah I guess so but it's exhausting when my baby gets sick and upsetting to see him splutter and cough. I have a 3 year old toddler who goes nursery so I do have another child. But baby seems to pick this up at my inlaws more.
The child that coughs is 10 years old. I would think old enough to know he has to put his arm there ?? But he's so nervous if I told him he'd probably cry. I'm not being funny but my 3 year old even knows she has to put her arm there and does it 90% of the time.

I have a 3 year old toddler who goes nursery so I do have another child. But baby seems to pick this up at my inlaws more.

Your child lives with a 3 year old (a literal walking germ factory) who attends nursery (the home of all germs) in all honesty it's much, much, much more likely they are the cause of their siblings colds or bugs than a 10 year old you spend a few hours with once a fortnight.