How to deal with other children being violent to your child

[Lionnose]

I have a DS, he is 3

There is one child in particular that is very violent towards my child (and he is violent to other children as far as I'm aware, he isn't picking on just my son). I don't know how to advise my son how to deal with the other childs behaviour. Any suggestions?

Usually my son and other children he is playing with are both being as bad towards one another and we (me and the other parents) can talk to them and get them to discuss, talk about feelings, say sorry, stop, but this one is just a bit too much.

My son asks him to stop. I've asked him to stop, even if I try to get between them the other child will try to run around me to hit my son. My son isn't an angel and has retaliated which I've told him is not ok. But I don't know what else to say other than ask him to stop and try to avoid, but this child keeps following him.

Even the nursery have mentioned it to me and said that my son deals well with the 'intense' attitude of the other child really well as other children in the nursery don't and get very angry with this child. I'm also going to ask them for advice but hoping someone on here has been through similar and has some gems of wisdom!

Thanks in advance

I probably wouldn’t meet up with that friend if their child was violent to mine

If this is taking place at nursery shouldn't they be dealing with It?

It’s not a friend of mine. They go to nursery together and I’m sure nursery deal with it there but the latest few situations have been at birthday parties outside nursery and at football, so any suggestions of how I deal with it there would be most helpful

You pick your DS up or move him out of the way, then say very simply to the other child ‘No, we don’t hit/poke/kick, thank you’. If he continues you go to his parent and explain what happened. It sounds as if this child may have something else going on, but you need to keep your child safe first and foremost.

@Timeturnerplease
Thanks I will try that