Co-parenting 50/50. Don't feel like their mum

[molifly12]

I recently split with ex and we share DC 50/50. Previously to this he was a very absent father in the home and I did everything so this is a big change. He has DC three nights a week and I have DC four nights a week. DC is 4.

I appreciate a lot of people will think I am lucky to have three nights a week to myself but honestly I really struggle with not having DC. I feel like I don't have enough time with them to properly be their mum as they are at nursery full time whilst I work. I don't want to be the mum that takes her child's time with their father away for purely selfish reasons either.

I just wondered if anyone had any experience with this and had any advice? Will my DC resent me for not having much time with me?

As long as you both have a share of the grunt work and the fun times, then this sounds like a good arrangement - especially for the kids.

However if he gets all the lazy weekends you are always stuck doing the school runs and homework then that's pretty shit and unfair on you!