Juggling 2.5 yr old and newborn - help!

[UKmumtobe]

Im really struggling juggling my two babies.

Dd Is 2.5 and very demanding. Especially seen DS has arrived. She hates me giving him attention especially breastfeeding.

Newborn is now 8 week's and does not sleep well. Naps during the day are non existent without me having to make a lot of effort e.g. going for a walk or going round the garden or bouncing in bouncy chair. Otherwise he just doesn't sleep. He's wide eyed.

I have to look after toddler but it means I'm neglecting newborn especially when it comes to getting him to nap. I just can't be in two places at once. Any tips

Wearing baby in the carrier doesn't work anymore before anyone suggests it. He won't sleep in it indoors anymore no matter how hard I try and it's just getting too much for my back and makes life hard trying to pick toddler up and do things like cooking dinner.

I feel so anxious about everything I hate being alone trying to look after them both. One always suffers and I know right now it's the newborns sleep that is suffering. Today he had 1 nap for about 45 mins.

How did everyone cope with this stage? :(

Oh gosh I have memories of this so big sympathy. My baby is 10 months so those nightmare early months are already a distant memory so hang in there - I promise it does get easier! Things that worked for me:
Dummy
Walks to the park & walking baby around in pram while toddler played
Bunging baby in pram in kitchen with some form of white noise - extractor fan etc & rocking backward & fwd
Letting toddler watch lots of TV if baby was taking ages to settle
Going for a drive

Baby at 10 months still only naps in pram now, But naps well now so I’m too petrified to change. I think with the second you have to just do wherever works to get baby to sleep, don’t take any notice of the “sleep experts” on google. Your sanity is much more important.