First ever pregnancy

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Hi all, first time posting. I'm 32 and have just found out I'm pregnant - just over 4 weeks. We were trying but this is literally the first month. I wasn't expecting it to be this quick. I've got a few medical issues, so those will be overseen by specialists luckily.
My question is really around a more sensitive issue. My mum shared with me recently that her first pregnancy was a MC. She can't remember how far along she was when it happened. I know this is possible, and I guess I'm trying to be realistic, whilst secretly hoping it's all going to be okay. Is this a normal way to look at it? Any tips?
Also, when do you start feeling like you're actually able to believe it might happen?
Thank you!

Congratulations :)

Its good to be open minded whilst hoping it doesn't happen to you, it is sadly quite common. I personally didn't feel it was real for a while! The 12 week scan was good as that's when you usually first see the baby and find out how things are going, the 20 week scan was even better and around that time i started to look pregnant and feel movements!!

But i only truly believed it when i had him!

Try to relax and enjoy things if you can x

Congratulations and good luck.

1st pregnancy I had fewer worries about all the terrible what ifs. 2nd & 3rd were miscarriages so all after that were a constant worry. I've gone on to have 5 other children (inc a set of twins), 3 other 1st trimester miscarriages and many chemicals pregnancies too. For me I only start to feel the excitement overtaking the worry after seeing an active baby on a dating scan, have had early scans showing heartbeat and still miscarried before reaching the 2nd trimester. I didn't stop worrying something could go wrong with our youngest until she was here, wasn't the easiest pregnancy or birth but she is perfect and worth all the worry.
All you can do is hope... miscarriages are common but most pregnancies progress well. Just take it day by day and celebrate each milestone you pass.

Congratulations!

It's very normal to have these thoughts and feelings. 1/4 pregnancies will end in a mc, which is a very sad statistic. However, that means you have a 75% chance of success right from day 1.

My first pregnancy ended in a mmc. The heart stopped beating at 8+1 and my body didn't catch up to this, so I still had all my symptoms right up until 12 weeks when I had to go in for surgery.

I wouldn't go in just assuming miscarriage although there's no harm in being cautious.

I miscarried first time I was pregnant but then went to full term after getting pregnant again within a month.

Staring at my beautiful baby girl as we speak

Many congratulations on your pregnancy!

You will hear a lot of stories from women who have had miscarriages - they are very common. The odds are in your favour though - try using datayze.com/miscarriage-reassurer?fbclid=IwAR1jehcN2eNSa-_aajVqPo9DwPK9Gv7ewJxfIEybYZQ6BTOBHqYy4Dh8L4g

Although there's no point getting too stressed, it's not like you see on TV, where it seems that everyone who gets a positive test is absolutely thrilled straight away and goes on to have a baby - the first trimester is often a bit of a worrying time but, as other PPs have said, try to keep it in perspective.

In my first pregnancy I told a few friends - my logic was that I would need their support if I miscarried, so there was no point keeping it quiet. I did miscarry at 9 weeks and was grateful for their support. However, when I became pregnant again, I didn't tell anyone - not out of superstition, but just to minimise my time spent thinking/talking about pregnancy, getting excited etc. I just wanted to carry on as normal until the 12 week scan, and then get excited if appropriate. It has (mostly) worked so far (11.5 weeks and counting).