Friends excluding others

[Zannab1988]

Hi I'm really wanting some advice.
My daughter is very close to a girl 'A' at school who's always been quite disruptive, pushes boundaries, gets into trouble in and out of school alot. My daughter had always been well behaved and open to me but this past year she's been in trouble as 'A' stole trainers from school my daughter was in trouble as she was with her when it happened, her grades have started to drop, she's been vaping within school because 'A' buys it and brings it to school, my daughter has also being very risky and started adding random boys on snapchat with her location on and messing pictures in her bra to these boys because 'A' does it and told her to do it. So after Christmas I had to sit with her and go through her phone to delete these people and pictures and now her phone stays downstairs on a night.
So with all this going on, yesterday my daughter came home really upset, they tend to hang around in a group of 7-10 other kids some pretty well behaved and she's gone through school close to at least 5 of them. Yesterday in school she said they were all whispering and when she and 'A' asked what's going on they said nothing and changed the conversation. When she walked home with one of her friends 'J' she told her that a few had planned to go to the cinema in town but now all of them have tagged along, without asking if my daughter wanted to go, the others rang my daughter in the night just chatting but no one asked if she wanted to go, everytime they talked about going to the cinema they muted the chat so she couldn't hear, then later on put pictures online of them all together. My daughter has been so upset that they didn't invite her, have been gossiping and keeping it a secret.
I honestly believe they didn't invite my daughter because alot of them don't like 'A' because of the trouble she causes.
What are peoples thoughts, how can I comfort my daughter about this, she's dreading school having to see everyone when they've been planning it behind her back and talking about it.

It will be tough for a while op.. My dd was ostracised for not indulging in the sleepover alcohol consumption.. She text me to collect her. Her so called bff's dropped her. As did the wider circle. Dd rode it out. She has new friends now.
Btw dd was 12. Bloody 12 being pressurised to drink. With the host's dm in support of a few bottles.. Grim...

You should have broken up the friendship way before now, moving school if need be.
Encourage her to make new friends and keep a better eye on her social media.

Sounds like the other girls don't like As behaviour and have decided your daughter must be the same as long as they hang out I'm afraid they will probably continue to exclude her

They have every right not to want to spend time with a thief (A) and others who engage in damaging behaviours (I think it’s called sexting?) that could cause wide repercussions. I imagine they’ve worked that out and are disengaging strategically.

If she wants her old friends back, she need to stop behaving in ways that they don’t want to be associated with.

A you need to work to remove this relationship between A and your D, as well as get your DD back on track academically. the friendship with A will not lead anywhere good.

The fact they’ve decided to go do their own thing is the least of her and your worries.