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Clubs

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RedCandyApple · 14/01/2022 18:37

Does anyone else child not do any clubs at all? My 9 year old son has been to a a few clubs in the past but he always says he doesn’t like them/doesn’t want to go? Don’t know whether I should keep encouraging him?

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Bobholll · 14/01/2022 20:02

I think people overdo clubs. I know kids with one every week if not more than one on some days. I don’t know how people afford it for a start but also, kids do need down time.

However, I think one or two are a good thing. It’s teaching a new skill or it’s exercise, it’s mixing & learning to socialise with kids you don’t know. All a real positive. I’d worry if my DD’s had zero enthusiasm for anything & id certainly not let them quit until they’d done all the classes I’d paid for 😂

What are your sons interests? Is he not into football or sports? Or acting/drama/music? Can he swim? Swimming is a non negotiable club/lesson for me. They have to learn & have good water confidence. It’s a viral life lesson! I don’t care if they hate it (thankfully they love it). Do you think your DS is struggling with the social side & not giving it enough time to settle & find friends etc and just giving up? Perhaps encouragement to keep going for a few weeks would be the right thing to do.. 🤷🏼‍♀️

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RedCandyApple · 14/01/2022 20:15

I don’t know if it’s relevant but he’s awaiting assessment for autism so yes I think the social side is an issue, he has done clubs he did one as part of the school but I paid for 10 weeks upfront as that is what you had to do. And he went 3 times and told me he didn’t want to go anymore so I lost my money.
He has done other clubs outside of school he did one in the summer but again said he didn’t like it. They are just starting a new club at a centre right next to our house so I thought it would be good being so close but again he says he doesn’t want to go so as most of these require payments up front I don’t want to waste money again.

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BunnyRuddington · 14/01/2022 22:55

If he's potentially got ASD would he be better if he has a friend to go to or has he tried something like a climbing course or cricket which aren't as noisy or have as much physical contact.

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RedCandyApple · 14/01/2022 22:59

He goes with his brother whose 7 but he still doesn’t like it, I will see if there is anything like that near us

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