Putting pressure on myself

[Rubytue10]

I have a 2.7 year old Dd and a 7 week old baby DS. My DD was a dream baby and I get her into such a good routine following the EASY one. My partner (their dad) works from home so I've been able to get alot of help from him. Now I feel like I'm panicking a bit for when I've to manage on my own and how I'll do it. I do feel a little silly as i know so many people do it and deal with much more, I think I'm just more comfortable with routine and everything going well and at the moment DS feeding and naps are all over and it's getting harder to get him to nap. I know I probably need to relax and accept some days are going to be really difficult and challenging. I feel I put pressure on myself for things to be perfect which I know is unrealistic. Any tips or advice with looking after 2 children will be much appreciated

Everyone feed and no one dead!

It’s still very early days and getting used to two is tricky and there is so much guilt.

I like that motto keeps everything nice and simple! I must remember it/ chant to myself when needed!!

I've lowered my standards a little And it's made me relax so much more. E.g more TV and snacks here and there, saying no more often to eldest (in a decent way or offering easier alternatives), reading stories rather than setting up obstacle courses etc and just getting out when we can.

It is very early days and don't worry too much about routine, just go with what works for you and try not to sweat the small stuff (easier said than done).

If you like routines you could have a look at Gina Fords Contented baby with toddler book - we didnt follow the night time guidance but the daytime routines were useful examples of how it could be done. As a caveat baby ds was bottlefed and easy to get into a routine, and we kept things very flexible - I wouldnt battle to get into a routine that doesnt suit you all.

Thank you. I think i need to do the same with lowering standards and like you say easier said than done! Good idea with snacks and easier activities for toddler. Thank you

I'll have a look at that book thank you!