6yo DS has mentioned multiple times in the past that no one wants to play with him at playtime/lunchtime. I gave him some phrases to use to ask politely and ensure he was joining a game rather than disrupting/changing a game that his class mates were playing. This seemed to work and for weeks he’s not mentioned it and played with a group of children since.
Today he came home from school and kept winding up his brother repeatedly until he was sent to his room to calm down. When I went into his room to ask why he was winding up his brother he broke down and said “I’ve had a really bad day, and it’s been very stressful for me”. I was quiet surprised as he had said his day had gone well at pick up. He then told me that he had gone round to every group in his class and asked if he could join their play during break time and all had said no. So he went and sat by himself, tried again at lunch and they all said no again and then tried again at last play and the same response.
My heart breaks for him as when he sees children on their own I’ve seen first hand him say “we need to get them to come and play so they don’t feel lonely and sad”.
He has always been a chatty member of his class, gets invited to parties and play dates, has girlfriends 🙄 and children at pick up and drop off are always shouting his name. So I’m not quiet sure how to approach this. I don’t think he is being bullied but I’m concerned as it keeps on coming back up.
I’ve also had a little niggle that he hasn’t really have a consistent best friend or friends in school. I know year 2 is very young and I’m probably comparing to myself when I was younger (but girls friendships are different).
I don’t know if to approach his school if it seems like it could be an age thing and something he will work through. But also don’t want to ignore it if it’s a bigger issue and he needs help.