Social Care Visit

[LaurenAnneP92]

Hi all,

Please no scaremongering as I am already stressed and anxious to the point of feeling ill.

Long story short
On NYE , I got very, very drunk, my husband was sober, he went home feeling ill from his booster, I stayed out.
I Came home way too drunk, got into an argument with him. We were switching a light switch on and off on each other (immature I know) when he knocked me into the wardrobe accidentally. In my drunken state I decided that he had pushed me and dialled 999. Before they even answered I hung up but as is process they had to follow up and police came out to check on us.
I told them what I thought had happened but said I really didn't want my husband arrested and I had no concerns for my safety or for that of our 3yr old son who was staying at my mums house that night.
Nearly two weeks later we've now had a call from social work, they're coming out tomorrow with my health visitor to do a wellbeing check. They assured me that this is nothing to worry about and is standard after any sort of DV call.
I feel sick to my stomach and so regret making that call. My husband DID NOT push/hit/hurt me as I initially thought and with a sober head I know that.
Has anyone had any experience of this??
My son has a tiny cut on his cheek that we think he gave himself in his sleep with his nail but now I'm petrified that they're going think we've hurt him.
I literally couldn't feel worse so PLEASE don't just give speculative answers, if you don't know that process or have useful advice please don't add to my worry.

Thanks

I think honesty is your best policy here. If you try and spin some lies, you will look like your hiding something.

Be up front - you fucked up, you know how and why you fucked up, and absolutely will not do it again. Let them give you advice - and take the advice.

If you didnt know you, would you want to check a baby was ok in that situation? Totally. Let them do their job - they dont want you to be a shit mum either! x

Reflect on the incident and think about where you went wrong (alcohol) and how you can make sure it doesn't happen again (stop binge drinking). Maybe make an appointment with your GP to discuss your drinking, then you can be seen to be proactive.

Also reflect on how you treated your DH, the equivalent behaviour male to female would likely be labelled abusive and coercive control, you made a false allegations against him to the police! Is there some where you can access support and guidance on this. Again be proactive, and tell the SW/HV what you are doing to make sure there is no repeat of this incident.

Thank you for your reply, I appreciate that you're trying to be helpful, however I would like to just assure you that I do not need to seek medical help for "my drinking" the reason I was so drunk is that I, in fact, drink very rarely because 1) I have my son nearly always and don't want to/think it's right to parent hungover 2) I suffer really badly with acid reflux and heartburn so it's just not worth it.
This was genuinely a one-off and I clearly over shot my limit on this occasion. Additionally I totally understand how badly I treated him and that's why I feel deep, deep shame and remorse and again this is a one-time incident. Nothing like this has ever happened in our relationship before now.
I have apologised time and time again and our relationship has been great since.
We only got married in May, we're happy and this was just a ridiculous event that should never have occurred but it did and now I am living with the consequences.
As I said before, I'm just looking for help and advice on what to expect with the visit tomorrow.
Accusing someone you've never met before of binge drinking and abuse is very unkind and dangerous. You don't know what you could be doing to someone's mental health.