Crazy 3 year old boy! (sometimes)

[Jollyholly100]

My son is 3 years old (and 4 months)...
He seems to have two sides (as we all do), On his own, he's lovely, kind, quiet, clever.
When little sister is napping or gone to bed, we have one to one time, doing puzzles, colourings baking etc.

When his little sister is around (1 years old)
He's crazy, hyper, doesn't listen, doesn't leave her alone, takes toys, jumps around near her, jumping almost on top of her.
I spend 90% of my day saying 'be careful, get off her, leave her alone'

Are most 3 year olds like this?
I think I just forget he is only 3 still, any tips to calm him down a bit in between his loveliness?

Also getting a bit annoyed anything I mention to my mum she says 'autism' because his dad has slight aspergers, she thinks my son will automatically be the same. 🙄 I honestly think he's just being a 3 year old boy, just to figure out how to manage him a bit better....

If it's just around the sister my thoughts would be jealousy/ trying to get your attention.
My advice would be to do what it sounds like your already doing which is focus on some quality 1 on 1 time with him.
The other thing is kids ( even more so boys) that age are just bundles of energy so they to get them out every day. Is there a safe toddler playground to wear them out? Or are there any classes in your area that cross the age ranges.
Also does the toddler go to nursery at all. Even a couple mornings a week would help run him about a bit and build more socialisation.
Sorry not much help hopefully others will be along with some more advice.

@Aimee1987
Yep, he's in nursery, was doing 3 afternoons before Xmas but now he's starting 4 x 8.30 - 3pm as I'm back to work (which I'm being made to feel guilty about by my mum too, too much for a 3 year old)

He's often took out, parks, playgrounds.
Today he walked 1 mile each way to the supermarket with his dad, and he was still crazy when he got back.

Most nights too, he takes about an hour / hour and half to actually go to sleep he's in his bed, mind racing, chatting and singing to himself. We put him down at half 7, and most nights doesn't go to sleep til 9!
In and out his room telling him to sleep.

It's definately an attention thing, but I'm baffled as his sister often plays independently, (well tries to), we aren't giving her extra attention play wise.

My DTs are like your DS, but they’re a few months older. One on one, they’re generally calm (DD is harder to keep calm and more prone to being ‘naughty’) but together it’s hell. DD also takes an age to fall asleep, she went to bed at just gone 6 but has been up and down like a yo yo since and has only just settled now. They’re both in nursery daily.

Neither of them are autistic or have any signs of autism. I’ve wondered if they have adhd or something like that, but getting a diagnosis in children so young seems to be impossible from the professionals I’ve spoken to about it. I just try to get them as tired out as possible and look forward to Monday rolling around again and nursery being open!

@MuchTooTired hats off to you with twins, I'm exhausted with these too, let alone two of the same age!
This parenting lark is hard work, always second guessing if I'm doing enough for them.
I'm so hoping once my 1 year old is up and walking, it'll get a bit easier as they'll be able to properly play and run about together. 🤞🏻