Night wakes and feeding

[Knees88]

Hello

My 2nd DC is 9 months old. He settles by himself for naps and bedtime e.g. I don't need to sway of feed him to sleep.

He goes to bed and wakes at midnight or so for a feed which I give straight away and he goes straight back to sleep in his cot

But then at 4am he wakes and thats it. He wants feeding but is biting and scratching me, he'd absolutely furious if I put him back. If I leave him I watch him on the monitor and I can see him trying to sleep but he just can't. Eventually most nights I get him back to sleep by 5.30/6

And then my toddler wakes for the day at 6.30

I want to stop breastfeeding and I'm totally exhausted. I am following all the sleeping advice and he can fall asleep independently at all other times. I've never done proper sleep training but have sat with him since he was very little encouraging him to sleep by himself

I am working FT and I feel like I'm at breaking point.

9 month old and a 2.5 Yr old is bloody hard. I keep trying to do more stuff and activities with them but do hard with working and only 4 or 5 hrs sleep a night

Any tips??

I night weaned both mine at 9 months with controlled crying. Feeding to sleep had stopped working.

Took 4 nights and then they slept through (unless something wrong)

Totally recommend it. It meant that I was down to just morning and bedtime feeds which is a lot more doable with two and working.

Thanks for reply. So do you just go in and comfort and refuse to feed them at all. And then leave them to cry and then comfort? Or do you still feed at all? My baby literally throws himself down my top and is hysterical if I try to stop him

I'd go in and out them back on their back and rub tummies and say shhh. I'd not pick them up properly or cuddle them or offer any milk.

I'd leave and wait 2 mins then go back in and rub tummy, leave wait 4 mins then tummy rub, then 6,8,10 min intervals. After that stay at 10 mins until they sleep. If they wake again go back to 2 mins.

OK. So I think I'll try not picking him up and see what happens. I've got a toddler asleep in the next door room and the crying wakes him and then I'm in real trouble with two awake at 4am. But I gotta try something. Thank you

@Knees88

OK. So I think I'll try not picking him up and see what happens. I've got a toddler asleep in the next door room and the crying wakes him and then I'm in real trouble with two awake at 4am. But I gotta try something. Thank you

Do you have a partner? They need to take over the toddler for a few nights while you do baby.

It's only 3-4 nights so you can do it over a weekend.

It was short term pain for long term gain really.

Are you the person posting on Relationships about your useless DH? Sorry if I'm mixing your up. He needs to be doing more!! You are working and doing childcare and the night wakings. Tell him to move his arse!!