Head lice drama

[Heidi3333]

Hi ladies. Just wondered what you thought of this situation. Please delete if not allowed.
I have a 5 year old daughter who unfortunately caught the dreaded head lice. No idea where she got them from but she’s recently started school so... I treated her and myself last week with a treatment that you only need to apply once. Since then she’s shown no sign of them, no scratching etc so I assume it’s worked.
She has 2 cousins (girls) that she sees most weekends; they are my brothers children and she love spending time with them. His ex wife has banned them from coming up to see her or any other remembers of my household (I live with my parents and other brother right now) for 1 month! Their Dad is allowed to have them up this weekend (he lives close by) but only if he also applies the treatment and shaves his head.
I understand her wanting their dad to apply the treatment but the 1 month ban and the head shaving seems a bit excessive to me and my daughter is really upset at not being able to see her cousins for a month.
Is she being unreasonable or am I?
Thank you

So the mother of these children doesn't want their dad taking them to your house, because of the head lice? If the dad has parental responsibility and they stay with him some of the time, their mother can't dictate who they do/don't see and what he does with them. It's also not your responsibility to argue in favour or against it, it's up to the dad to decide what he does. If he knows his ex-wife is strongly against it for whatever reason, maybe health anxiety who knows, and doesn't want to piss her off or make her highly anxious, so be it. If she's unreasonable in a number of ways and this is just one of them, and he thinks it's fine and she's overreacting then he should do what he wants but that's his battle to fight not yours.

If he wants to make his own arguments about why she's being ridiculous he should consult the NHS guidance. Head shaving isn't recommended, even if he was a known carrier already, and she seems far too OTT. www.nhs.uk/conditions/head-lice-and-nits/

Is she not from the UK by any chance ? Not asking to be a dick BTW, it's just the head shaving seems to be the go-to solution in my native country!

Only applying the treatment once is a bit optimistic, no matter what it says on it. Have you kept combing through with conditioner to check your DD is really clear?

Thanks ladies
Mushypeas- she's very controlling and dictatorial most of the time about how they spend their times at their dads (he had them every second weekend). If he disobeys her then he probably won't see them again for months as punishment 🙄.

Cheshire - no she Scottish, I just think she defo has mental health issues of some sort. I plan to put the kit comb through my daughters hair tonight to make sure she's clear.

I just think she's being very OTT but I really don't like her so wasn't sure if I was being objective or not!!