Please tell me all about your gorgeous boy babies!

[newtolineofduty]

Hoping not to get flamed as this is mainly lighthearted!

So we found out yesterday we're having a baby boy! We already have two girls and a boy (joint DD and two lovely DSC).

I remember once reading that boy babies are often harder to settle than girl babies due to increased testosterone and reduced seretonin levels compared to girl babies. I wouldn't usually buy in to this kind of stereotyping and I know every baby is different but on reflection in considering our own personal experiences, as well as those of friends and family, it seems that boy babies are often a little more whiny and fussy than the girls.

I'm abit anxious as I loved the baby phase with DD and coped well in spite of various health problems, but I'm thinking would I have enjoyed/coped as well with a very difficult to settle baby like some of my friends have experience, and as DP experienced with DSS!

I'm so excited and we have already been looking at clothes, nursery ideas, and names, so as the icing on the cake I'd love to hear some reassuring experiences from mummies of lovely chilled happy non colicky boy babies to add to my excitement and shush some of my anxieties! ❤️🥰😂😍 xx

I definitely know loads of chilled sleeping through the night at 6 weeks boy babies! My boy wasn’t one of them but I don’t think that was due to being a boy. He was (and is!) however, super engaging - he was the most interactive baby ever, he’d be craning his head trying to grin at anyone he could, I had so many lovely comments on him - my favourite being “ah, he smiles with his whole face!”. When he’s born, he will be your amazing boy whether intense or chilled and you won’t want him any other way (ok, maybe in the middle if the night we’d all swap them for a better sleeping one!)

Thanks so much everyone!

Team boy! 💙💙💙

My boy slept brilliantly well at night but wasn't a great day time napper. He was totally chilled and rarely cried. He was known at the baby clinic as 'smiley baby'.
My elder brother was a quiet baby and good sleeper. Then I arrived and screamed for 6 months solid, never sleeping for more than half an hour at a time. The difference wasn't down to our sexes or him being a first born and me a second born. I was permanently hungry as I was suffering reflux and lactose intolerance and barely kept any milk down. As soon as I was fairly well established on solids I became a totally different baby.

Oh no way, baby boys are a million trillion times easier and more placid than girls and I have 4 girls and 1 boy. I always wanted a girl before I became a mammy but my god I never realised how amazing little boys are, I never knew what I was missing out on.
Congratulations, amazing exciting times ahead

I have a lovely 2 year old DS. He was the happiest baby, even with cmpa, celiac and chronic constipation (which we have has since he was 4 weeks old). He is the sweetest boy. So loving and sweet.

Oh I will also add, boys seem far more affectionate in their toddler years. Mine always used to ask for hugs and cuddles. Even now aged 7 he loves a cuddle and asks for one or we just cuddle on the sofa.

They don't say "mummies boys" for no reason 😳😂

My boy baby was an absolute dream. Slept well, fed well, rarely cried, always smiley and happy. Far more chilled out than my girls.

My boy babies were beautiful sleepers still I are now they are in school. They were milk monsters so I spent a lot of time feeding but the settled brilliantly. Where as my Dd was harder to get down. Honestly, I think each baby is their own independent personality and their sex doesn't impact on how well they settle or not.

Wonderful thank you everyone!!!!! Xxx

I had to keep this quiet but my boy ( now 22) was a good sleeper and settler …. Would feed and toddle off to sleep, from 4 month went to bed at 7, woke at midnight for a feed then slept soundly until 7 … I was very lucky … it just depends. Enjoy and good luck

Hi @newtolineofduty

Can I ask where you read this as have been googling every word combination I can find and can’t find anything!! The reasoning doesn’t seem to make any sense to me?

As a previous poster said, people often incorrectly see sex as a reason as to why babies do this or that, especially with one of each. The truth is, babies (and adults!), are all individual (probably even more so as they don’t understand gender stereotyping as babies) and it doesn’t really matter if you have a routine or not, bf or ff, cosleep or sleep in another room etc. If we really knew the reasons why some babies sleep then that person would be a billionaire and we would all have perfectly sleeping babies!!

www.everydayhealth.com/kids-health/parenting-boys-vs-girls-how-different-it/

@Bonnealle this is the link specific to the testosterone/serotonin stuff, but if you search 'do male babies cry more?' then a few different theories come up that reference difference in crying/distress tolerance etc, although there's also stuff that says there's no difference! However after all these lovely kind replies I'm sufficiently reassured! 🥰 xxx

My DS was the easiest and most placid baby ever. He is almost 10 now and he is still the same.

DS just turned 3, he is super gentle, caring and affectionate and was a very content and happy baby. He was sleeping through the night regularly at 3 months and loves his sleep - I had to wake him up at 8.30am to get him to nursery this morning!

Sounds like rubbish to me. There is some research that apparently says baby boys cry more, but it was done in America where at least half of baby boys have an open wound on their penis due to routine infant circumcision. So probably doesn't apply if you don't plan on doing that!

I have three boys and they have all been happy smily chilled babies.

DS is 6 now but was a very happy and chilled baby. I think it is more their personality than their sex though!

My son was an a solute dream compared to my daughter as a baby! She cried and fretted all the time while he was calm and content. I've never heard that boy babies are difficult

Who comes up with this scaremongering tosh about serotonin, testosterone etc? Just enjoy your lovely baby boy and don't worry.

UPDATE

Thanks to everyone that replied to my OP. I just wanted to update as I was so grateful for everyone's replies. My little boy is now three months old and is the most loving, sweet, happy, easy going little adorable thing ever! Everyone comments how chilled and happy he is, and he's just gorgeous and cuddly! So in love with him and feeling so so lucky to have him 💙

That's amazing! congratulations op

@bakewellbride thank you! Let's hope I've not tempted fate now 😂❤️💙🤞

Congratulations, how wonderful! My first 'baby' boy is now 6ft 3 and going off to uni next week.

Cherish those beautiful baby boy cuddles...the years go so fast!!

@Panicmode1 honestly I'm already sad about the fact that one day he'll leave me/us! 😂 x hope you're coping ok x the years really do go so fast. My daughter is almost four and it doesn't seem two minutes ago I was cuddling her on the sofa all day! X

@newtolineofduty I'm fine this week...ask me again after we've dropped him off next Saturday 😭!!

Congratulations again.

Both my boys are older teens now but we're very content babies. Even now they're just hard working lady who get on with the job.
They've never been fussy about food or even clothing, my eldest was not a great sleeper but after having baby number 2 I realised it was more the fact we were first time parents and didn't really know what were doing.
I have both boys and girls and I'll say this, there's been a lot less fussing from the boys!