whats the worst advice you have ever been given?

[sunshinesupermummy]

come on, dish the dirt

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pukkapatch

My 3 children have all had washable nappies and never had nappy rash. People can be lazy using disposables as they can soak up more therefore leaving them on longer, and too long in some cases.

I never had bad advice because

1. built-in advice-filter at ears
2. look forbidding so random strangers don't dare to even talk to me
3. look foreign (am foreign, in fact) and speak mandarin to dc so people think you don't understand English and don't waste their precious advice on you
4. selective amnesia
5. have excellent MIL and parents!

"Put a rusk in his bottle at night, didn't do mine any harm"

From childless exSIL - "It doesn't matter if they eat loads of sweets when they're little - their baby teeth fall out anyway"

Make sure you have a room where you can shut a crying baby so that you won't hear him.
WTF?

You need to eat lots of rich food so that your breastmilk will be rich for dd to put on weight. Dd had a heart condition and was tiny and not gaining weight fast enough.

This gem was from my HV. Along with making me supplement with formula to a screaming dd who was having none of it. I now know it is rubbish. Guilted me half to death.

Oh yes,
"your child will do badly academicallly because you have postnatal depression", from a hv.

Five years down the line he is doing very nicely at school.

thats sort of what i was saying nab.

reallytired my mum had pnd and i left uni with a 2:1

"Don't pick him up every time he squeaks" Ha, I did anyone, and he was a Perfect Peter of a baby anyway.

Ds2, I couldn't pick up every time he squeaked, because he squeaked a LOT!

1. being told ad nauseum that I was spoiling the baby or that my baby is "spoiled" because she likes to be held and darn it, I like to hold her!

1. Being told that I must give DD water or else she'd dehydrate (when she was a BF newborn)

and loads of superstitious stuff

'bloom where you're planted'.

fuck that! the world's a big place.

don't like one place, move onto another and try that out.

Babies have to cry - it exercises their lungs.