Has sleeping in baby's room helped?

[TreaclePlum]

Hi guys. Have a 1yo.
She's still not sleeping well, and still has a bottle in the night.

We've done sleep training at a few stages in her life which has in fact worked well for a few weeks anyway. Seems not to be now.

She can self soothe. We put her down in the cot awake and she will sleep until a point and then no more.
The only thing that's worked is cuddles and sleeping with me or on the odd occasion bottle and put her back down.

I was eager to sleep train with Ferber method however if she can self soothe then that's that. I didn't want to be "rewarding" her waking up with a bottle or cuddles in bed with me but that's where weve got to.

I'm a huge advocate for "doing what you must" to get sleep. Honestly by 1 I thought we'd be in a better place

Blah blah blah long story short

Has anyone tried camping in their baby's room next to cot? And has it worked?

I tried setting up a bed on the floor next to my LO's cot and it made her worse. Just ended up with her on the floor with me so I could get some sleep! Sorry!

Yes.

4 years later she still won't sleep on her own .

Haaaaa. Hmmm did you guys go through thinking it was something you did? I'm trying to accept that she just needs comfort in the night..and no matter what Id have done this past year, she still would be the same?!

Did either of you bottle feed? I breast fed til about 8 months before going combi. I wondered if this added to the clingy!

I breastfed initially but moved onto bottles and it made no difference to her clingy.
My poor husband ended up on the make shift bed in daughters room for a while and I co slept and then we managed to get little one into her own room, on her own. We were going to do the ferber method but she actually just went down really well. I don't know if she was just ready? She was 8 months old by this point. I'm hoping that any future regressions aren't too difficult

I could have written this. Watching with interest!

From about 4m to 6m it was getting pretty dire sleepwise (after just one boob night feed at 3m I thought we were winning in life)! Then boof...four months.

At 6m she went in her own room and we had a week of her sleeping 7-6am and I was like THIS WAS ALL WE NEEDED.

Then that ended too. 8m we did the Ferber which worked amazingly within two nights. Then again gradually got poo til 10m. Then we did Ferber again and amazingly then gradually bad.

Teething, illness, hunger or not...dunno. Turned 1 year tried Ferber again and it just hasn't worked at all.

What we've been doing last few months is bottle at 4-5am then she comes in with me to sleep til about 8. I was like...that's absolutely fine.

But last night she was up 10.30 to 12. 2-4 then from 7. Screamed til she got a bottle at 3am.

I'm lucky in that she's an absolute delight in the day, such a happy baby. Always has been. So guess we can't have it ALL

@TreaclePlum

Haaaaa. Hmmm did you guys go through thinking it was something you did? I'm trying to accept that she just needs comfort in the night..and no matter what Id have done this past year, she still would be the same?!

Did either of you bottle feed? I breast fed til about 8 months before going combi. I wondered if this added to the clingy!

Yes, exclusively breastfed till 18 months and for most of that time I breastfed her to sleep. Everytime she woke up in the night I fed her. I think she has never learnt to self soothe.

Now she doesn't want to sleep on her own because she's scared and because she gets nightmares.

Our situation is far from ideal but based on what other friends have said 1 year is still quite young. I think many babies / toddlers still wake up in the night around that age and need help to go backj to sleep.