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Loulabell6321 · 04/01/2022 22:07

I have a 3 month old baby girl, her father lives down south. He works away around Country and can very rarely get time off to come up to see her and has now requested to start taking her down South for a week 2 times a month. so he has her 50 percent of the time and I do.
he would picking her up travelling 750 miles down country (with stops) and then leaving her with grandparents/family/babysitters while he goes away to work and will be home every other night maybe longer. I feel confused to why his so desperate to take her away from her home when he won't really be spending the time with her. when he was coming up I let him stay at my home to spend over nights with her and he rented a property for a week where she went and stayed 2 nights, I felt completely fine with this.
last month she was admitted to hospital as she was very poorly so I have so many concerns in regards to this, and many other things.
I understand his a dad and its great he wants to take her. What's everyone's views on this?
I have read a few cases where courts have agreed to letting a child travel from 18 months, but from 3 months I think is a bit wrong?

any advise would be appreciated
thanks

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KurtWilde · 04/01/2022 23:25

Absolutely no way.

TopCatsTopHat · 04/01/2022 23:28

I am stunned in fact that he thinks this is a good idea for her. That tells you the level of understanding he has for what a baby needs, very little!
I'm a huge advocate for fathers being part of their children's lives and think everyone loses out when this doesn't happen or is limited by relationship breakdown. But the absolute requirement for any arrangement must be that it does no harm, and his proposal would be hugely damaging for her. Imagine her confusion.
There will be lots of texts from reputable sources on child development which would support your wish to refuse this request if you want to read around to strengthen your resolve and arm yourself with the language to ensure he knows your refusal isn't based on personal preference but defense of your dd's precious healthy psychological development

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