2 year old tantrums help!

[Butterflyy20]

i know toddlers are toddlers and they have big feelings they can't express so ends up in tantrums and screaming etc. but over the past week my almost 2 year old (this month) has just non stop kicked off at everything i've said, screamed in shops over the smallest things. it's caused a lot of arguments between me and my partner as i'm trying to be calm and acknowledge his feelings but i just feel so out of control? how do i go about this? it is really embarrassing too as i have a 2 month old baby. i don't think it's to do with my other son being born as he gets a lot of attention still and he loves him dearly! any advice is welcome

It sounds to me like your definitely doing the right thing -by acknowledging that at this age these tantrums are because they are experiencing emotions and feelings they dont know how to express in words/handle. The best thing to do is like you say, stay calm and ride it out. I also have 2 year old and 1 month old. I feel like older child is louder now, as although they are loved and cared for, they simply dont have the time and attention they are used to because im looking after another human. That's bound to affect them. These days will pass, and the arguments will pass. Unfortunately I think it's just little moments that we have to ride out.
Ive found distractions absolutely the key - - dont always work, but a moment of calm and then distraction works well for my eldest. Good luck!

This montessori approach to dealing with tantrums is quite useful to read.
Even though he seems to be ok with his new sibling, his arrival will have caused some upheaval in your toddlers life and he doesn't have the understanding and maturity to deal with it rationally.
I also find that lots of tantrums are down to toddlers having very little control over most aspects of their life. So I make sure that, whenever possible, I give them oppurtunities (within boundaries) to make choices about what they wear, eat, etc.

I was about to say if there is a sudden change your toddler maybe ill but a new baby and Christmas may account for this sudden change.