Baby Surname Help Please!

[DearWilbur]

Are there any unmarried couples here who have given their baby both mum and dads surname, but without a hyphen? The two names just don't sound right together said all at once.

I am keen to share part of my surname with my baby until my partner and I eventually get married. We are engaged but realistically cant afford it for a few years. I'm also a bit of a pessimist and am aware that life isn't perfect and if anything were to happen in the future with me and my partner, if DD was to just have her fathers surname, I wouldnt like having to prove that I'm her mother etc. Id prefer my name to already be in hers.

I am also keen for her to have his surname too, as I intend on marrying him.

Has anyone ever called their baby
First name + Middle name + Mums surname + Dads surname? (No hyphen)

I thought officially on paper she would have both our surnames but with them not being hyphenated, we could go with Dad's surname for everyday use, as the 'preferred name'. I'm just not sure if my surname would then become more of a middle name for her? Or when we register her would the two names go in a 'surname option' box?

Any advise or experiences if you have done this would be greatSorry if this all sounds a bit silly, baby brain has officially set in!

Once/if we marry we would change her name to just his surname, and I would also change my surname to his.

To anyone suggesting changing my name by deed poll to his to avoid this problem completely, my mother suggested this but then I'd find it a bit weird when we got married in the future and we both already had the same surname. If anyone has gone for this option, how did you find it?

Thanks

I don’t understand why you wouldn’t hyphenate them- two separated names would look odd.
I’m married but kept my surname so my children have a double barrelled surname- quite happy for them to drop mine once they hit 18 if they wish. Tbh when I say their full name I only say name + dads surname (as it’s first)

I'm married but added my husband's last name to mine with no hyphen. Our three children have the same as me, so all 'first middle myname hisname'. We always use both surnames, for forms we write both in the surname box. Sometimes they'll get called by one or the other at eg. the GP surgery but beyond that it's not an issue.

It's not the reason we did it (I just preferred the look without a hyphen and felt that because my husband wasn't taking my surname as well that we weren't creating a new name, which would have merited a hyphen - a bit odd of me, I know!) but I do think not having the hyphen gives extra flexibility to use one or the other - or drop one altogether - as they're two separate names. Ultimately though I don't think it makes a big difference one way or the other.