Normal or annoying?

[Justannoying]

We have 2 DC, DD4 and DS 3 months. I sleep in spare room with DS in Next2me crib and deal with all night wakings and have done since birth as I am breastfeeding.

Dh is in our bedroom as his work can get busy and we didn't want him to be constantly disturbed. We agreed he'd deal with toddler wakings but DD rarely wakes in the night so he gets to sleep through about 90% of the time.

Dd can wake early though (6am), initially DH would keep her entertained but lately just lets her come to wake me up. I guess he thinks it's fine as I'm now 'only' waking once a night to feed. But that's after 3 months of sleep deprivation and sleep.regressions might be around the corner so I'd like to get sleep while I can.

It's also unfair on DD as I then keep having to tell her to be quiet so she doesntwake DS, but he invariably gets woken up any way.

So here I am, entertaining toddler DD, feeding/rocking DS one handed while DH snores way. I'm quite irritated this morning but is it fair enough since I'm on maternity leave?

Is your husband Chris Whitty? No, then he can get up at 6am with his child.

I used to do the vast majority of wakes with DC1 but I stayed in the comfy master bed and DH went into the spare room. I used to nap pretty much every day because you can when you've got one baby (if they'll let you of course). When you've got two it's all hands to the deck I'm afraid, your DH just needs to get used to being tired. 6am isn't even that early.

Thanks so much, good to know it's not just me! Also if he thinks 6am is early and he is too tired he could so easily go to bed earlier. I get that it's boring but the first 2 months I was going to bed at 8pm every night just so I could get enough rest to survive. Staying up till midnight having 'me' time is a luxury I could only dream of!

Also she quite often wakes at 7 or 8am too so it really should not be that tiring for him to deal with once in a while!

In his defense with the spare room though, it's just as comfy as the main bedroom and i prefer baby to be in there as its further away from Dd's bedroom so she's less likely to get woken up.

No, i think your dh should be getting up with your dd as long as you're doing the night feeds. You should be able to sleep until your baby wakes. He can always counter the early start with going to bed earlier if he feels tired. He'll still be getting more rest than you because he gets consistently gets unbroken sleep!

Umm no that’s not ok, if you’re still waking in the night then he should get up with DD