Leave 10 month old for 4 days with dad.

[Eri21]

Would you do that? I’m kinda stuck a bit.
The baby is perfectly fine together with dad, they have no problems at all to stay together when I’m at work for 8 hours.
But I just learned about death in family and would have to fly to another country to attend.
I don’t know I guess I’m worried a bit about eating-him making the bottles and making sure they are done correctly and make some food for him etc, just the small things. Maybe I’m just stressing about nothing.
Would you think it would be fine?

Who makes the food and bottles for the 8 hours you're at work?

If baby isn't breast fed then go. Baby will fine, and dad will get confidence in dadding.
Dad is an adult just like you, he'll work out what he needs to do.

I’m sure they’ll be fine. If you would be able to look after him on your own then his dad should be able to as well.
And if not, then it’s an excellent opportunity for him to practice.

@WorraLiberty

Who makes the food and bottles for the 8 hours you're at work?

Honestly I just make everything ready before I leave and tell him what to give and when, it’s just easier for us that way.

I would have thought by 10 mo. old, Dad would know about basic routine and food/bottles? How do they get on while you're at work?

Honestly I just make everything ready before I leave and tell him what to give and when, it’s just easier for us that way.

This is ridiculous, that's what you do if you're leaving your child with a babysitter not their own father.

I'd definitely go, it's a perfect opportunity for him to learn to deal with the mental load of parenting.

Honestly I just make everything ready before I leave and tell him what to give and when, it’s just easier for us that way.

He shouldn't need telling how to prepare bottles or when to feed his own child. This is basic parenting, and 10 months into having a child your DH has had plenty of time to learn this.

At 10 months surely things don't need to be so rigid anyway. Leave some pretty mixed formula cartons if you're worried abnitbhin making them wrong. Baby will let dad know when he's hungry/thirsty

Start going through the process with him. Write it down if necessary. They will be fine.

Honestly I just make everything ready before I leave and tell him what to give and when, it’s just easier for us that way.

Easier for him you mean.

Change that today. Make sure he knows how to feed his baby, even if you have to give him a one-off step-by-step demonstration.

Sorry for your loss

I would have found it very hard to be separated for 4 days from my Dc at 10 months.

A parent of average intelligence can surely manage the practical care though. And whether you go, stay, take your baby with you or not, stop de-skilling your DH as a parent.