I know my 2 year old has too much screen time....

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I dont really enjoy being a mum. Love my 2year old DD but hate the drudgery of being a mum and miss my old life.
I work full time and DD is in nursery 5 days a week but i still really struggle with keeping her occupied.
I did have PND and am on meds and feel like its under control.
The only thing that keeps her quiet and not whinging is kids you tube. Feel like im failing.
Incendetally me and DH have decided on no more children as i couldnt cope with any more.
Not really sure what im saying. Just full of guilt and regret really being a parent. sigh

At my dc first school (we've since moved) there was a Chinese mum and she literally put all three of her children on iPads immediately pretty much as soon as they were interested. She told me she downloaded educational games for every age and they played away all day on them.

I used to majorly judge until her dc came out top of the class every single time. She had three dc, they used the iPads from the moment they woke up, to and from school in the car and whenever they wanted really. Anyway screen time isn't great but perhaps you could do what this lady did and ease the guilt based on the possibility of the iPad actually teaching your dc something?

Ah, we all do it! You might find that you start to enjoy your DD more as she gets older (I did). A strategy I used to try and get through the time when she was 2, was to find something that I did enjoy doing with her, and do that once a week. Then let myself off the hook the rest of the time. You don't need to ace this time, just get through it however you can. If she's in nursery 5 days then she's getting a good amount of stimulation.

She’ll be fine! Just keep on keeping on and things will get better for you as she gets a bit more able to entertain herself over time. Two is a really relentless age.

Kids used to be chucked in a pram out the garden all day. There was a link to this article on here today and it does make you think.
www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2021/may/18/parent-trap-why-the-cult-of-the-perfect-mother-has-to-end?CMP=fb_gu&utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Facebook#Echobox=1639042839

You don't want to take her to the park/playground or anything at the weekends?

Doesn't she climb the walls with boredom? My toddler DC need to be run out like dogs

I find it helps my anxiety since recovering from PND to make a regular plan for the wknds.

So Saturdays are something like:
Breakfast
Screen time + coffee
Activity - swimming lessons/walk to the park
Lunch
Library - read 5 books
Screen time
Dinner
Bath & story
Bed

Sunday
Day out with lunch (meet friends?)
Screen time late afternoon when you get home
Tea
Bath and stories
Bed

You might find that the more you do it, the easier it gets and the screen time is guilt free (even if it's more than you'd ideally like) because you've also scheduled in other things.

Take it in turn with your DH to do some of these things if you need some downtime.

It's hard being a mum esp with PND, some days are a grind.

Hey. I have a 5 year old and a 2 year old

I felt tremendous guilt when my eldest was that age and I put her Infront of a screen. However, she is turning out wonderful. So I have decided no more guilt with my youngest. He loves the screen and has an iPad or tv on a lot.

I feel that these 2 year olds have been through a rough start in life (as have their parents) lockdown really took it out of us all.

Be kind to yourself, things do change so much.