Partners views on drugs and fathering

[Thegirlbehindthemask]

Me and my partner have just had a massive row!! He thinks it's OK to go out have a good time take drugs and come home to his newborn . He hasn't done this but he has made his view loud and clear that it's OK.
In his younger days this was his normal for him and i accepted that of him as it was who he was ut now he has a baby his view is still OK to go out drinking do coke and come back and father.
I never liked him taking drugs but now his views on it make me want to leave him as he doesn't see it being an issue being around a baby whilst under the influence of drugs.
Am I missing something? He thinks drugs (coke) keeps you on a level over drinking and it be acceptable to go on a 12 hrs bender, sniff and come home to a baby.
My view is clearly different and just not what I want to fear everytime he goes out so would rather be single than have that worry!

Get rid

Why did you have a child with this boy?

eermmmmm

absolutely not

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Kick him out and don't allow unsupervised contact. Let him take you to court for it. He's not fit to be a father.

LTB and that's not advice I'd usually give.

He’s an idiot. You were very optimistic thinking he’d stop being one just because you had a baby. So what will you do?

Dump.

@girlmom21

Nope Nope Nope Nope.

Kick him out and don't allow unsupervised contact. Let him take you to court for it. He's not fit to be a father.

What she said.

Leave him.

There is no way I would let someone on coke be in the house with my child.
Absolutely no way.
I would tell him very clearly that I would call the police- because I would.

In his younger days this was his normal for him and i accepted that of him as it was who he was ut now he has a baby his view is still OK to go out drinking do coke and come back and father.

Why would you have accepted that's " who he was" and had a baby with him?? Of course its not OK but I'm at a loss as to why you got pregnant before he made and followed through with a commitment to change.

There's no point blaming yourself over your choices op , your baby is here now , so the question is , what are you going to do now.

We've all made mistakes, ds dad turned out to be an idiot , but we have to put our kids first .

You are not missing something, no. It is no5 appropriate to do coke and then come home and attempt to parent.

Are you able to take steps to establish your and your baby’s life separate from him?

Whilst I agree there's no point beating yourself up about a mistake, I still think it's important to reflect and take responsibility for our own actions. It's how we grow and learn not to repeat behaviours.