My friend's mum is rubbish on playdates, should I tell her?

[Musomama1]

Sometimes I do playdates with my friend's mum, let's call her 'the Nana'. She lives nearby and I often bump into her to chat anyway.

My boy and my friend's boy are both 2.5, my friend's little one always been rough around the edges, used to scream a lot and now he is getting physical, trying to hit and kick etc. My friend is really good at stopping this and telling her boy off / say he's sorry etc.

Yesterday was different. The Nana was there and the boy hit my son. She then cuddled the boy and stroked him and said 'there, there' and 'you don't want to say you're sorry do you?'. I bit my tongue but inside I'm soooo fucked off, this was weird and she seemingly rewarded this boy for his bad behaviour.

Do I tell my friend about it?

It’s never going to end well saying you disagree with someone’s parenting.

I would just not meet up with them again and reduce contact.

Just don’t meet up with them when the NaN is there

No, don’t mention to your friend.

If you mention it at all, I would mention it straight to the Nana, politely. If you tell your friend, what's she going to do? Have a very awkward chat "Hi Nana, Musomama said that the other day, you..."
Of course the alternative is just not to see them any more. I've stopped doing playdates with one friend because her DS is just so rough with my DD, rips objects out of her hands and hits her with them, snatches all her snacks etc and my poor DD just freezes. I've just decided never to see them any more!

I agree with all, not going to say anything but not gonna do a Nana playdate again.

Seeing this might b a blessing in disguise, she does singing lessons and wanted them to do lessons together at hers. No way gonna leave him alone at hers. So furious but no point having an awkward falling out (we all live close by) if we can just avoid.