Would you leave dad and daughter asleep?

[lollipoprainbow]

My dd's dad looks after her in the holidays a couple of days a week while I work. He is a terrible sleeper and often doesn't get to sleep until the early hours, he also has to sleep on my front room floor due to lack of space. He always requests that I leave him to sleep when I leave for work. My dd9 loves her bed too and sleeps late. I feel uneasy leaving them both sleeping when I leave. She's 9 and pretty independent despite being autistic but what if something happens? Am I being a fussy mum?

Also as others have said choking is silent anyway, it would be better to make sure things you are worried about are out of reach/hidden.

[quote lollipoprainbow]@MerryMarigold that's exactly what I mean !! My dd doesn't have any learning difficulties. [/quote]
Can she read? Why not leave a note on her door saying Daddy is downstairs or something similar.

She’s 9 though - just tell her to go and poke him if she needs him? And ban her from eating until a grown up is up if you’re really worried about choking. What else are you worried about?

My 4 year old can get up and play in her room for a while on her own before we’re awake so I wouldn’t be stressing about a 9 year old.

She’s 9? What, realistically do you think she’s going to do if she wakes up first? What if she wakes up before you?

@lollipoprainbow

He wears earplugs so I worry that I'll leave for work and my dd will wake up and I'm not there. What if she chokes on a sweet or something and he doesn't hear her. Worse case scenario I know but I've already said I'm a worrier !

Choking is silent... you wouldn't hear it either...

Jeez my 7 year old gets up before me and makes herself breakfast. She’s 9!

OP...you are massively overreacting here. Massively.

@lollipoprainbow

He wears earplugs so I worry that I'll leave for work and my dd will wake up and I'm not there. What if she chokes on a sweet or something and he doesn't hear her. Worse case scenario I know but I've already said I'm a worrier !

I still don’t understand the problem Choking is silent so you wouldn’t hear either. Why would she be expecting you to be there when she wakes up? Can you not just tell her that you’re leaving for work at x time so if she’s awake after that and needs anything she can poke her dad?

You are over worrying

She’s 9, she knows he’s looking after her, she’ll come down and find him if she needs him - no different from having to come and get you if she needed something in the middle of the night

They sound like rather a sweet pair!

Incredible

I mean it gently, yabu, it's almost controlling. You could wake him up but nothing to stop him going back to bed and leaving her "alone" in the house.

Its cruel to wake them up before you go just so you know they're awake. My dh looks after the kids (10&12) in the holidays and I go to work leaving them all in bed. If they were awake when little he'd be up with them but I think 9 even with autism is old enough to wake her dad up if she needs him.

OP are you worried because your dd has autism?

@pickingdaisies thanks for your kind comments we muddle along fine

@Luredbyapomegranate thanks ! They are sweet together

@YRGAM rude

@OGenkiDesuKa so ?! Not all children are the same are they.

@Hope54321 yup !!

Thanks to those who made nice comments and reassured me. I came home to a sparkling clean house courtesy of my dd dad and she hadn't choked to death feel a bit silly now but I am very overprotective of her.

Unless her autism affects her in ways not clear in your OP, Yabu.

What's her usual morning routine ? I'm guessing something like wake up, use the loo and come down for some tv or breakfast ?

I remember once I left for work, can back at 1 pm and DD and DH were both still asleep! She would have been a similar she!

@mumofEandE 😂😂