Anyone moved baby to a bed in a room with a sibling?

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I have 2 little boys, DS1 is 4 in Feb and sleeps wonderfully. Bath, 3 stories, yoto player, goodnight kiss and I leave. Then he's down until 7am at the earliest. DS2 is 19m and ok, mostly he sleeps through after an hour and a half of settling and hand holding and occasionally has a mad 3/4/5am wake-up where he's up for the day.

DS2 has been going through a stage where he won't let us leave the room until he's dead asleep and it's become very difficult. Last night I decided to try controlled crying as there was so much crying anyway, I might as well do it according to a plan. It worked ok at bedtime but when I tried it again at 3am wake up, he promptly climbed straight out of the cot! DH is now trying to settle him the old fashioned way.

The room he's in is the spare room/office/junk room. It was only meant to be temporary until he moves into the room with DS1. It's not safe for him to stay there now so he must immediately move into DS1's room into a real bed and he's not ready at all.

DS2 went into a real bed at 20m but he was more compliant - DS2 just laughs in my face when I say "no!".
How is this going to work? They're just going to keep each other up all night, aren't they?! Has anyone else transitioned a baby to a bed at this age with the added complication of a sibling?

Sorry I can't help but my kids are exactly the same age and similar temperaments and situations (DD2s bedroom is a home office during the day now thanks to covid) so following for tips!

Well even if there's no tips, I'll report back. My plan so far is sitting them down tomorrow morning before nursery and explaining the new situation, giving them both time to think about it. Then keep them up a bit later so they're definitely tired, and try a joint bedtime - 3 stories (like DS1 has), some songs (like DS2 has), then yoto, lights out and hold DS2s hand for a bit. Should I bring DH in on this? That might set a precedent that there's both of us at bedtime.

Could you try a travel cot? I’ve heard that they are harder for them to climb out of. It might just buy you a few more months for his understanding to develop.

Any reason why his cot can't go in the room? changing from a cot to and bed and changing room may be a big adjustment for him.

Actually no, other than the "big boy bed" is there, so I swapped them over. Thanks!

My kids have a similar age gap. They started sharing once the youngest was around 9 months and mostly sleeping through. We did bedtime / storytime together when they were little and they each chose a story. Neither woke each other up in the night, they have both slept through light being turned on and beds changed etc. They do wake up early sometimes and play which can be annoying. A gro clock helped. They still love sharing a room....

That's so nice to hear! I have a gro clock, we can read the book that comes with it tonight.