Our child is having supervised contact, from reviewing the contact reports it does seem on the whole she has positive contact which I am pleased about to an extent as I would not want her to be distressed in his presence. She does display some disturbing behaviour leading up to and after contact has taken place and has told multiple professionals of the violence she has witnessed and she remembers certain things she's been subjected to.
However, this is someone who is horrifically abusive, I cannot go into the in's and out's of it all but he did some exceptionally awful things to us both, but in particular her.
He has shown no remorse for these things and continues to lie to the Court.
We have CAFCASS interviews coming up and I am not sure how to communicate this to the CAFCASS officer that he will never be able to safely parent our child as he is so violent and that darkness resonates within him. He has been abusive for over 25 years to every single person in his life. Every family member, every partner, every colleague he's worked with, everyone.
I hugely worry for her future as a young teenager and a woman and if she presents any of those challenging behaviours that you would expect as they grow up and how he would control his temper.
It desperately worries me as contact is going well, he has very minimal supervised contact and his ultimate aim is to have shared care (as so he doesn't have to pay maintenance and to spite me) but I want to communicate that the Court cannot give someone the "benefit of the doubt" when a child's life is at risk.