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What is your 10 year olds behaviour/attitude like?

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User9911 · 15/12/2021 21:29

My son is 10 and has a younger sister who is 5. He has always been extremely obedient and well behaved. He always listened and if I simply warned him about his behaviour he would stop. He has been the perfect child behaviour wise.

The last few months has seen a sudden change in his attitude. He will talk back and shout “what did I do!!!! I didn’t do anything!!” If I tell him off.

So I’m wondering is this just simply normal push back from a pre teen? What consequences do you give your 10 year olds?

Tonight I asked him to go to his room for misbehaving and not listening. He said “no I’m not going”. OH tried to physically put him In his room but he fought back and was banging and kicking the door so he let him out. He stormed past him, went downstairs and sat and watched tv. I felt a bit at a loss - if he refuses his consequence then what do I do? I was gobsmacked that he was acting this way and we were both a bit lost - we’ve never had to discipline him more than being sent to his room.

Now he refuses I don’t know what I should do next. He said he refuses as he thinks he done nothing wrong. He was continually not listening to me and running away feom his sister who I was also trying to get to bed. And he was slamming doors behind him which could have caught her fingers etc. I asked them several times stop stop stop. Finally daughter stopped but he continued so I ask him to go to his room for not listening.

Any advice?

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JoMumsnet · 16/12/2021 11:58

Hi OP, just bumping this one for you in the hope that someone will be able to help.

SnowdropFox · 16/12/2021 14:14

Sounds like a pre teen!

What are the current consequences for his misbehaviour? Do you follow through?

When he has calmed down have you tired talking to him about what happened?
Hey x, yesterday was no fun for both of us. What happened, why were you so angry? Next time try 123 etc.

Sitting down chatting at his level, asking his opinions and thoughts may go a long way.

User9911 · 16/12/2021 21:40

Thanks. He woke up in a much better mood today thankfully and has been so much nicer. I think tiredness plays a part in it too.

For his consequences I will send him to his bedroom. The problem is he is now refusing point blank to go so I can’t force him so instead I removed his PlayStation and explained this was because he refused the first consequence. He then said he refused the consequence as he felt he didn’t do anything wrong.

But he accepted the PlayStation removal and didn’t fight it. In my anger I said a week but really I would rather it just be a couple of days. But if I go back on my word it’ll probably make it worse.

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