Hi
I have a 3 year old son who goes to see his dad on day in the week and sleeps over on weekends.
The relationship was very unhealthy with my ex and we don't talk unless we have to.
We got into a argument a while ago because my son was unhappy about going to his dad's my ex was basically always playing on his computer games and would leave my son to play.
I had concerns because my son was coming home in clothes that were too small for him so I suggested I pack a bag for him to take to save on money etc but my ex said he has enough clothes.
My son came back with a upset stomach and when I asked what he'd eaten he said a apple and grapes for lunch and pizza for dinner. I got annoyed because in the past he would feed him alot of junk food and I said he needs 3 meals a day etc a healthy variety of different things and atleast 2 snacks if he wants them.
Also my son was wearing trousers for a 18 month old. When I said this to my ex he became abusive and says I make things up to make him out to be a bad parent. Calls me names and tells me to go to social services if I have worries and otherwise not to mention any concerns I have.
Am I being unreasonable and too picky ?
I've had concerns about my ex smoking around my son, his diet being unhealthy, his clothes not fitting him, him leaving him to play while he plays video games and also asked him to get a safety lock for his flat window as he would let our son climb near it and also told him I was concerned he would let out then 2 year old go down stairs alone and go stand by the car alone which was out of site from his flat. My ex says im picking on him etc. If I say anything about his parenting he will swear at me.
My son randomly said his dad had smacked him and when I asked about it my ex said our son was lying. And now my ex is saying I'm accusing him of hitting him etc. I feel like I can't say anything or I'm being too overly worried ? Sorry ranting abit