night time wetting in nearly 4 yo- any advice please?

[Haylstones]

DD is nearly 4 and has so far been extremely reluctant not to wear nappies to bed. We've raised the subject a few times, talked to her and she's got a bit upset and said she needs a bedtime nappy. We left it at that as we thought it best to wait until she felt ready.
Last weekend we talked about it again and she wanted to go 'bare bum' to bed so she did. She went to the toilet before bed and dh took her again before he went to bed about 11 but by morning she was wet. This has repeated every morning since (although I went to loo at 5am this morning and she was awake needing a wee but was only a little wet)but she's determined not to go back to wearing nappies and I'm not sure what to do- do I insist on nappies or keep going as we are washing bedding EVERY day?!

As an aside we have a plastic sheet under her sheet but have been putting Pampers mat over the top of her sheet- could she be doing a wee because she knows it'llbe soaked up?
TIA

I think it's perfectly normal for children up to 5 to still not be trained - she just wasn't ready and I guess she said so originally and has now got confused! I don't see that it's a problem if she stays in them until she's ready - you'll know when she's dry in the morning or takes herself off to the toilet at night or first thing.
Can you put her in a nappy that seem more like pants and call them special pants? Say they'll make her feel more comfortable - take her to the shop and she helps you buy them etc. Or buy a couple of 2nd hand girly cloth nappies!

I've tried every type of nappies but she's so determined not to wear them at night any more. I still have her cloth nappies but I don't think she'll wear them. I'm not remotely bothered about her not being night trained yet but she seems to want to be grown up. In the meantime I don't know if I should encourage/insist on her wearing nappies or persevere with changing bedding every day
(We've been talking to her about it for about 9 months -every few weeks we've mentioned it- so I don't think she feels under pressure to do it because we've asked her

Bump in case anyone else has any words of wisdom

My DS was the same, we just perservered with the bedding thing (although it was the Summer then ) and after a few weeks he was okay , however even now at 5yrs he does still have accidents ..sorry not v helpful really?

KNowing I'm not alone is helpful! I managed not to have to change sheets today because she did most of it in her PJ trousers and a bit on the Pampers mat on top of her sheet! It does mean that I often have tgo use the tumble drier to get it all sorted for tghe same night, which is a pain

I know its probably avoidance tactics but I just bought extra cheap sheets (bad colours but hey ho!) so I didn't have to rush to get them dry although obviously still have to wash ASAP so you don't get a house smelling of wee!! he has in past also slept on his dressing gown and/or a beach towel..
I know friends at school whose 6 yr olds still have accidents so don't think it is too unusual, my DS usually has an accident if he is particularly tired/bit poorly..although think we have overdone the whole'don't getupset it can't be helped thing' cos he had a phase of shouting in a singsong voice from his room at 3am 'Muuuummmmmy have weed the bed again !' like it was a good thing .....am dreading the whole wet sheet thing with my DD (although not even close to potty trained yet so I have a while)
Good Luck with it all

Raise foot of bed by about 5-6 inches.

so come on then! how does that work?

Just saw this thread when responding to another one about night nappies. DS1 will be 4 in February, and is still in night nappies. I'm not overly worried, and neither is he. If it's any consolation, I have a friend whose DD has just turned 6, and is still in night nappies! Frankly, I could'nt be doing with all that washing of bedclothes, and would have to insist on nappies back on.

don't know twofishes - weird advice given to me by my nan. DD1 had been dry at nights for months and then suddenly started wetting the bed every night for three weeks. Put a couple of hefty books under the end of the bed and she stopped. Took the books away a couple of nights later and she wet the bed again. This time left the bed raised for about two weeks and from then on she was fine. Let me know if it works anyone!!

Haylstones, I think I was confused by your original message where you said she wanted a bedtime nappy but you kept talking about it. Anyway, what about buying a hippychick bedsheet & then putting extra sheets on underneath so changing the bed in the middle of the night not such a hassle? and hopefully it won't last very long, she's just getting used to it?

I have a habit of confusing people . We talked about it over the last few months but she didn[t want to go without a nappy- last weekend she changed her mind and now won't wear one! I have a waterproof sheet under her sheet so the mattress/ mattres protector aren't getting ruined but tbh I'm not actually changing the bed during the night because she never wakes up to tell me she's wet-it's just a pain in the morning with the playgroup run and dropping dh off at work (and having to bath her because she's wet the bed!)to have to change the bed before we go! I'm also 7 months pg and been told by physio not to do things like hoover or make beds because of my back....
Think I'll take the Pampers sheet off as when iasked her this morning why she didn[t go to the loo in the night she said it was because she had a 'nappy sheet' on her bed