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10 mo - needs constantly attendeding to

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sleaterminnie · 09/12/2021 22:03

Just an 'is this normal?' type post really, because it seems all the other people with similar age kids I know are experiencing something different...

I have a 10mo daughter - my husband and I work full time, looked after by my parents in the day until we have more stable accommodation to find childcare near.

She is very active - crawled really early, basically walking already, constantly wanting to climb everything obsessively. Blink and she is on top of/in something she shouldn't be, putting something she shouldn't be in her mouth (she is very obsessively oral as well) - and then if she pull her off/away she screams/arches/protests. You can distract her for a few seconds, but then she is back to whatever it is.

We have a playpen at both our and my parents - at mine we live in a tiny rented flat with a kitchenette, so impossible to fully childproof really. So very much always in playpen. My parents be contrast have loads of space and we have managed to do quite a bit of baby proofing.

But she just CONSTANTLY manages to foil whatever plans to keep her safe - you can't leave her in the plan pen because she has figured out how to jimmy the big screws off the top to escape/try to swallow. She doesn't like to be in the pen alone - so she will try to get out, only put up with it for a bit if you get in with her. I'm terrified to leave her in the cot because she tries to, and almost can, throw herself out headfirst. So no showering etc. - you can just about run quickly to the toilet and back, but I even worry about that.

I'm actually the least paranoid out of my parents and her dad - I'm like "Oh she'll be ok, she has to fall over" when about to bang her head on the wall/door/floor/corner-bumpered objects, but they freak out because she could crack her head on the tiles after climbing up the cupboard etc.

Again, she will get into that sort of situation within 3-5 seconds of being put down, every time.

She seems to have some vague awareness of drops etc. occasionally, but when she sees something across the room/an escape route she has noticed, she seems to get so excited she just flies in that direction with no care for anything.

I don't know if its that they/I are overly watching her, her nature is particularly adventurous/spiderman like, or this is just normal? Because people with similar age kids talk about them playing with a toy for 5 minutes, how you can start to leave them to amuse themselves a bit 'banging their head the other day' (instead of twice an hour...).

Is it me or them that is the weird one?

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FortunesFave · 09/12/2021 22:22

Some are like this and some aren't. It's their little personalities showing already.

She just sounds very active and bright. Can you put gaffa tape over the playpen screws? Just wind it all around...it's very tight once it's on. Failing that use plumbers tape...just make sure the ends are tucked under.

MonkeyPuddle · 09/12/2021 22:30

She sounds like my 13mo. Climbing, walking, talking, not bloody sleeping, into everything and more. The exact opposite of my 4 year old and brought up just the same. It’s their personalities shining through.

Knackering mind you.

Truthseeker456 · 09/12/2021 22:32

Doesn't sound too dissimilar to my daughter. There is no way she should be getting out of her cot though. Have you lowered the base down yet ?

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Lostthetastefordahlias · 10/12/2021 08:03

I understand the frustration of living in a small flat when they are this age (its actually easier when they are a little older) - I would say try to look at your living area with fresh eyes and make sure there is no way to baby proof. If she is allowed in a bit of a larger area than a playpen she may focus less on escape and may settle to play better. Our DS was just the same, lasted 2 mins in a playpen before he was screaming, we managed to fence off all the portion of the living room thats not kitchen and babyproof it, now he plays there happily. Just a thought in case it may be possible for you.

RedwineforSantaplease · 10/12/2021 08:16

Yeah, I only have very active children, I'm very jealous of these babies and toddlers that sit.

We haven't baby proofed anything tbh we just supervise them and just steer them away from danger, I think if you give them free rein to explore it takes away some of the more Houdini tendencies. DS only goes in the playpen when I need to answer the door or nip to the bathroom, cot is for sleeping and he'll tolerate it for 10 minutes while I shower.

CelloYouveGotABass · 10/12/2021 08:25

Normal!
I found things got easier about 18-20m when DS developed more interest in toys and was a bit more able to listen / be reasoned with

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