I would just like some advice from people looking at my situation from outside the box. Me and my daughters Father split just after her birth and we had an arrangement that he would take care of her every Saturday. She did used to sleep over at his Mothers with him but the routine was not being followed along with a few other things such as his Mother changing her formula without consent so I went from a baby sleeping through to a baby not sleeping through, I asked if this could stop as it was making it harder for me. I then asked if he could stay at our house for the Saturdays and I would stay out, so our daughter was in her normal home and routine would be followed. This worked fine up until last week when he suddenly said he no longer wanted to have her over night and said he would be changing the agreement to a Saturday on a Saturday off 12-7pm. That’s seven hours a day, two times a month, he would be seeing his daughter fourteen hours a month. There’s Fathers that fight in court to be granted that and he is changing to that and his reason for this is ‘I still need to have a love life’. I have no option but to of course go by this, I cannot beg someone to be a more hands on Dad. He does work Monday to Friday 7:00-15:00 and as he still lives at home he gets his room tidied for him, his meals made - he literally finished work, goes to the gym, goes home has a nice long shower, gets into his ready made bed after having his ready cooked meal. Whilst I take care of our daughter day in day out. On the Saturdays I did used to have off I would catch up on cleaning that needed doing, washing, have a long soak, go for a walk… our daughter is nine months. Am I being unreasonable or is this just pure madness? Why do Dads who don’t live in the family home think they have the rights to pick and chose when they want to be a parent? Why is the Mother left with everything? WHY?!