What's your 13 months old's awake window?

[LettucesAndRoses]

My DD has always had longer awake windows than what I see for each age bracket when I look online. Curious to hear what your experiences are.

She was awake for 5.5 hours between nap and bedtime until about a week ago and now fights going to sleep and stays up an extra hour no matter what I do. So we're at 6.5 hours already.
She's only been having one nap a day since 11 months as she was awake too long between naps to fit two in. She now has one long nap (2.5-3 hours) about 4 hours after waking up.

Starting to think she'll stop napping altogether way to young!!!

We've just dropped to 1 nap and I can't get the timing quite right at the moment - I'm aiming for a nap at about 12/12.30ish and it's usually 90mins - 2hours but it went wrong yesterday and today! 🤦 That gives us an awake window of about 5/5.5 hours either side.

DD 13mo is in on one nap too, she varies a lot. But at the minute awake between 7-8. Nap about 11.30 for 1-2hours, bedtime at 6.30/7.00.
Could you try reducing the nap slightly? Even though I would love that much quiet time in the afternoon 😂

@LettucesAndRoses How does your DD sleep at night? If it’s working for her then I’d say go with it 😊
My DS is all over the place at the moment with his naps. He’s trying to drop to one but just isn’t getting there yet at all. He usually wakes around 5.30am and is ready for a nap about 9.30am. Probably 4/5 days per week he’d easily sleep for 2/2.5 hours at this nap. But if he doesn’t wake until 11.30/12 we can’t fit in a second nap and by bedtime he’s so overtired that he doesn’t settle. I’d pull his bedtime forward a bit if I could buy I can’t physically get him to bed any earlier than 7.15pm due to work etc.
So instead of letting him do that I’ve been forcing 2 naps for little while longer and just manipulating them slightly. Last few weeks he’s been down at about 9.30am and I let him have a maximum of 1hour then wake him. He was usually ready for another nap about 2pm because he didn’t nap long in the morning so went down then and did another hour or so. He’s now gradually started waking up earlier himself from the 1st nap - maybe only doing half an hour then is ready to go down for the second nap earlier and I’ll let him do a bit longer.
Anymore than 2.5h daytime sleep I’m total and he seems to have a really restless night so I tend to cap it at 2.5h unless he’s unwell or something. And I make sure he’s awake by 3pm or he doesn’t go down to bed at night.

I think we are dropping to a one nap day at 13 months. Wake window in the morning is still about 3-3.5 hours, but then the afternoon nap doesn't always fit in, so sometimes can be awake from 12/1 until bedtime at 7.

@PanettoneSeason She's starting to sleep better at night but still waking up 2-3 times. For her, it's pretty good as she has always woken up every two hours. I used to spend two hours every night, on the verge of tears, trying to put her to bed when she should have gone to bed (according to sleep "experts"). Turns out she wasn't overtired but not ready to sleep yet. So I'm taking the awake window thing very seriously now

We are the same with our 1 year old! Awake windows are far too long as has a very early morning nap and refuses to go down for afternoon nap. I've tried capping morning nap but still refuses afternoon nap so now I just let him sleep as long as he likes. Today he woke at 6 and then napped 9 until 11.30 (did have a bad night and was awake 12.30 until 2am) by 5pm was shattered. But preserved and put him to bed at 6.30pm. So our awake windows are LONG before bedtime!

[quote LettucesAndRoses]@PanettoneSeason She's starting to sleep better at night but still waking up 2-3 times. For her, it's pretty good as she has always woken up every two hours. I used to spend two hours every night, on the verge of tears, trying to put her to bed when she should have gone to bed (according to sleep "experts"). Turns out she wasn't overtired but not ready to sleep yet. So I'm taking the awake window thing very seriously now [/quote]
@LettucesAndRoses they’re all just so different aren’t they? One of my friends wee boys is 2 - up at 7am, back in bed for an hour at 9, then sleeps 2-4pm as well 😳 and has slept 7-7 at night without wakings since 12 weeks old 😳 If mine is overtired he won’t settle and not quite tired enough then it’s a nightmare. The first day I went back to work I’d asked his childcare to make sure he was awake by 3pm at the latest...and they let him nap 4-5pm 😐 he didn’t go down to bed until nearly 10pm that night and It was ridiculous 😳 I’ve been there with the waking every 2 hours or so in the night...we also had split nights for a few weeks where he was awake 2-5am everyday 😳 I managed to get him back down at 5am just in time to get in the shower and get ready for work. I was ruined.

@PanettoneSeason I feel you. It drives me insane when people ask if she's sleeping through yet on a weekly basis. Then, it's followed by examples of other people's children who are sleeping much better and suggestions as to what we might be doing wrong
Like you said, they're all so different and ours are doing something completely normal for their age. I like to think that we'll have an easier time when they're a bit older as all this is building our resilience!
Good luck to you, you're not alone.

[quote LettucesAndRoses]@PanettoneSeason I feel you. It drives me insane when people ask if she's sleeping through yet on a weekly basis. Then, it's followed by examples of other people's children who are sleeping much better and suggestions as to what we might be doing wrong
Like you said, they're all so different and ours are doing something completely normal for their age. I like to think that we'll have an easier time when they're a bit older as all this is building our resilience!
Good luck to you, you're not alone.[/quote]
@LettucesAndRoses I already know I’m in for a rough time with mine! He’s been climbing since before he could walk and climbs everything in his sight 🙈🤣 if it’s not lack of sleep that does it, it’ll be the heart attack he gives me that gets me 🤣
Agree with you though...they’re perfectly normal for their age 👍🏻😊